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Today 17:53Young23

Hi everyone, I would like some advice please.

I have been dating my partner for 2 months, everything is going good! He's a lovely man.

The only concern I have (I do apologise if I sound insane-I am actually very laid back). He has an attractive female freind, of 7 years. He has slept with her, and dated her for a period of time last year, but they didn't take it any further and remained freinds. My only concern is, how far does a freindship go? He meets her twice a week, they go on nights out/walks/Gym and exchange messages and calls each other daily, whilst he is with me (I never hear or see the topic they are talking about). Am I in the wrong to be concerned or feel uncomfortable about the situation? Or am I being daft?

Please let me know what you think, many thanks. :-)

Fuck that

I would feel uneasy with this too. It's stupid and sexist and a bit untrusting. But again, it would bother me. Mostly because they dated.
But you can't tell him who to be friends with. So I think you have to accept it (maybe hang out together so you get an accurate feel for how they are together) or except you can't except it and that it can't work if you can't trust them 100%.

Hummm
Ex girlfriend
Daily contact
It's a No from me.

Lol, I've spoken to him about it and he reassures me, but the moment he has free time, he runs to her lol.

I think I may observe for the next month, and then decide then. It just gets me down, because he comes up wih excuses to see her, every other day she feels down, and so I don't burden him with my feelings and just pretend Im ok ect..

No. Just... no.

It’s a nope from me. Don’t bother giving him another month to disrespect you. He’s taking the piss. It would be bad enough if they hadn’t slept together before, just too close for comfort.

But with them being exes too, it’s far too intimate for any new partner to have to suppress their own feelings and not talk about their own issues because he’s so wrapped up in hers.

It's hard to tell but if you aren't comfortable with it then your aren't comfortable with it. You either need to dump him or You need to be honest with him about what you feel and what your expect of him and then he can chose.

One of my DD is best mates with her ex. They've been friends for much longer than they dated and have been on a number of holidays together since they broke up. They text all the time and are very supportive of each other. There isn't an inkling of romantic feeling between them. They have dated other people but I wonder how it will work if they end up with more serious parters.

Seems a bit odd to me but works for them.