Help me get in the right mindset for this date!! ANOTHER online date

[Userfruitloop]

Here we go again. another online date.

i hope one day i will look back on all this and think it was worth it!!

ladies any words of support please!

I met my boyfriend of (nearly) 1 year on tinder so it could well be worth it!
What are you and your date planning to do?

student i've been on SO MANY! single for 18 months now and been on maybe 30 dates this year. im sooooo bored of it!

we are just going for a drink and he's picking me up (from a train station). he's been verified as i know of him VERY distantly through my career/networking although we have never met. but it is just ANOTHER saturday night that probably is pointless!

What went wrong with the others?

mrsmaise im half hearted about wanting to meet up again! just straight onto the next! i talk to a few people at a time on the apps. i have had the odd second date here and there but i soon lose interest and i am talking to someone new. guess i was hoping for that moment when you know it is it! would make it much easier!!!

@Userfruitloop
I had a period of around 2 years where I went on at least 1 date a week. I found I often dismissed men too quickly when they were actually decent men but just shy/nervous.

I hope it is going well!

Thanks, he was actually nice. No crazy butterflies or hysterical laughter and he talked a lot about his job and talked a lot in general... but it was a nice evening.

Once again I’m completely neutral about a second date!!

Name change?

I think you’re expecting a bit much from a first date. I’ve had three major relationships. Only one had butterflies etc originally and probably because of that I put up with too much shit. The other two were definitely “growers” one naturally (work environment) but the other, my now DH, was OLD and there was just enough there that I thought it worth getting to know him better. I’m so glad I did. It is tough with OLD to make that decision - if there’s enough

Sorry - if there’s enough that to make it worth the effort. But how often IRL do you meet someone and have that instant attraction? Why expect more from OLD?

When I met my boyfriend I’d decided to go on a second date with everyone who wasn’t AWFUL, a few weeks later I met him.
If I’d still been in my previous mindset I would’ve cut the date short! He was nervous, kept moving his hands about and cracking his knuckles and could hardly look at me for the first hour or so. By the next date he was much more comfortable and it was like I’d known him years and we laughed for hours

thanks, i think i will meet him again..im totally hoping for the fireworks, but maybe they will come xx

I've been single for 5 years.. and have had many first dates in that time.

It was so boring that I stopped doing it one day. About 6 months later I got chatting to a guy in a FB group and really liked his conversations. We agreed to meet. The first date I didn't find him phycially attractive but because i liked who he was we went on another date.

5 months on and he is as hot as fuck. Not sure how that happens but I'm glad it did.