Struggling with attraction

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NC as my other threads are outing.

I’ve been with my partner 3 years, for the last year he has been gaining weight, he is not lazy and works an active job, just snacks a lot. Now I snack a lot too but haven’t had weight issues as of yet.
He’s not obese, far from it, but the weight doesn’t fit his frame and has aged him dramatically.
I still love him to bits and can for the most part still get sexual.
But how do I deal with the loss of my solid, sharp featured partner turning soft and round?

I used to feel a wicked urge to mount anytime I looked at him and now I want to give him an affectionate pat on the belly.

This will get blasted for being shallow. Take cover.

Look, if you love the man, the outside won't really matter so much. Most people put on weight when they are happy and content in a relationship.

What you can do is be mindful of your health and encourage each other?

Telling him outright will simply dent his ego and hurt him, just as you would feel if he said the same to you.

It’s incredibly shallow and I wish I didn’t feel it. I’ve no plans on leaving or finding someone new, just struggling a bit with the physical side of things.

We’ve been talking about cycling so maybe we can give it a go.

Ouch. Awkward one.

Has he seen the GP at all during this period where he's gained weight?

He’s not seen the GP in years, not any issues he sees as warranting a visit