Hi, this may well be long and I've name changed as its pretty outing. My ex and I share parenting whereby I have the kids every weekend and he has them some days during the week and Sunday. It works out that he has them 3 days and I have them the other 4.
At present he 'works' every Friday and Saturday night and will let me have one Saturday every two months to myself. I don't know what he does as he refuses to tell me and I feel he has me over a barrel about the childcare.
So its my Saturday night tonight but bloody typically I'm unwell and have had to cancel my plans. I've asked if we can swap dates he's said yes but can't guarantee when as he's snowed under and might not be able to at all. My difficulty is that I know he'd forgotten about tonight until I reminded him earlier this week and had arranged to go out himself, he doesn't know that I have this info tho, therefore he can't be that snowed under!
Initially when we split he told me he didn't want me to meet anyone else which is why I find it so difficult to believe him about work and he has form for lying. I know he doesn't feel the same about me meeting someone new now though as its been 5 years I just think our parenting arrangement is unfair.
What I want is for him to have his children at the weekend more often but how do I go about achieving this and maintaining a decent relationship with him which is what I want. Apologies I may well have missed things out and if I detailed everything you'd be reading for a week!