Why has he always rushed to defend the other party?

[LittleMy20]

One of the things my husband had always done is if I even slightly criticise someone or some organisation he does not fully listen before rushing to their defence to suggest I am somehow being

Yes nicenew dusters he’s coming tomorrow and I’m going to go out. It’s hard though because I have to get the kids food ready as my stbx can’t even boil an egg and literally orders pizza ever night. He also just keeps them at home which is such a shame on a nice day although I know they enjoy doing little with him. I have to rely on him to not let my son damage things in my new house though and he never is firm with my son ( despite freely raising his voice at me) . I am very firm with my son and it’s frustrating because he needs it. I also worry that he is always trying to get my very energetic daughter to sit still or siting her high hair/ buggy etc anc it drives me mad because essentially he was always trying to get me to sit down ( whilst simultaneously not helping me to get anything done). I know I have to do what you say and I will tomorrow. I’m trying to encourage him to see them once midweek and once at the weekend as it’s better for them but it means he’s in my home which is really hard. I sort of sympathise with him not wanting to
Manage alone with them out and about as it’s really tough.
At playgrounds for example my autistic son might be running up to mothers with tiny babies and I know he wants to pinch them so I have to run over whilst keeping an eye on my fearless young daughter and making sure she gets a play- it’s very difficult and I worry about them in his care because it’s so hard .