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Is my ex a lying scumbag?

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kisha4567 · 13/09/2019 18:20

So at the beginning of meeting my ex he stated he wanted to be in my life forever and he loves me and all that cliche bullshit. We even planned to have a baby together which we did I'm now 15weeks +2. So he told me about his self that he had crappie child and all that, he even told me that he went out with 45 women confused which should of been a red flag. And talking about how horrible his exs where. But then a month ago he wanted to change me telling me how to dress and saying I don't like change and he wanted gives us a life style for and the children I have. My only issue with this was he lived in his mother's how which I never judged but her home was filthy and didn't understand what life style he was talking about. He was talking taking me to Paris but his brother said he was broke. I told him that I don't care about if he had money. But three weeks ago he just dumped me telling we were two different people and I don't like change and all I want to be is a mum which is why he wanted break up. He said he ain't seeing anyone so after that I am very confused, and need some clarity advice. Thank you. FYI I never forced him into relationship with him.

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newmefor2020 · 13/09/2019 18:25

How long had you been together OP?

kisha4567 · 13/09/2019 18:28

6 months was together

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newmefor2020 · 13/09/2019 18:32

Oh OP, I think what happened was that he love bombed you, pretended to be something/someone that he wasn’t and now that you’re pregnant, he has no interest in keeping up the pretence. You deserve better than him OP Flowers

Rachelover60 · 13/09/2019 18:33

You poor, poor girl. I've heard similar stories before. You've been conned I'm afraid, you may not be the only one.

How do you stand financially, are you secure in your home? Sort out the paperwork before you grieve for the relationship that never was. I hope you have family and friends in real life to give you support, also hope he didn't take money from you.

All the very, very best.

Flowers
kisha4567 · 13/09/2019 18:40

Thank you for the advice. Luckily no i didnt i had a feeling he was about conning me out of money but i was trying to see the good in him. So luckily he left on his won accord.

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Itsarainyday555 · 13/09/2019 18:59

It's difficult to know what advice to give you when you were only together for 6 months before deciding to have a baby. Clearly you don't know this man at all and it seems that you will be better raising your baby alone away from his attempts to change you.

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