Fallen for FWB, broken it off

[LyraLaVey]

Please wise women, any words of wisdom appreciated. I've just broken things off with my lovely FWB as I have feelings for him and I can't stop crying.

He is gorgeous, funny and we have had such a good time together. We originally met when we were 19 and 20 and are now both separated and mid 40's. I got in touch with him after I split from my husband and he has been a constant for the last 18 months. We message every day pretty much and see each other every 6-8 weeks. He lives a fair distance from me so that's another factor.

I know it's the right thing to do to walk away but it really hurts. I'm so sad and keep crying. I've got loads of happy memories and I'm going to miss him so much but I daren't keep sleeping with him or I know I'm going to get really hurt.

We aren't the right people for each other, and he definitely isn't in love with me though I think fond of me and cares about me. I might be able to be friends when I stop hurting, I care about him and it hurts so much to lose him.

Any advice very much appreciated.

No great advice but well done for being so strong. It sounds like you did the right thing if you know he just wants a FWB situation

No advice just an online hug (HUG)

You did the right thing. I’m so sorry that you’re hurting

So hard to leave someone that you feel so much for. Sending you big hugs and

Thank you so much. I kind of wish I had ended it sooner, I didn't think it would hurt so much to lose him. My heart hasn't quite caught up with my common sense yet 😔

Just done the same. Didn't realise how much it would hurt. He is with 'the one' now and l feel physically sick thinking about them together. I have now done 5 months no contact and it is getting slightly easier. Sending you lots of hugs and strength. X

I’d suggest keeping your distance. So no social media, no texting, no “meeting for coffee as friends”. I think cold turkey is the solution (it was for me).