Am I being too harsh?

[OverAtTheFrankensteinsPlace]

Started dating a guy back in May, I really liked him. We went on a couple of dates then he had to go abroad for business for 3 months. While he was away we messaged a lot, like non stop.
He came back last week and we went on 2 more dates which I thought went really well. Since the last date the messaging has reduced dramatically and he's colder.

I am inclined to think that he is doing a slow fade on me. He says that he is feeling ill and feels a bit down because business is slow and the weather here is depressing.

I'm not sure what to do, I've told him my worries and he hasn't reassured me, just said that he will probably be like this for a while.

I'm thinking this is too much hassle so early on in a relationship and feel inclined to tell him to get lost or should I be more understanding?

It's probably best to move on.

Is he self-employed? If so, maybe something has gone wrong and he's finding it hard to be positive...

I would just let him know that he knows where to find you, and go about your merry business.

I personally self-isolate when I am upset and withdraw from most interaction.

I asked him if we were ok a week ago and he didn't bother responding.

He's happy enough to go out with friends but not reply to my messages.

It's fair enough self isolating when you're upset but what would you do if you were in a new relationship?

I asked him if we were ok a week ago and he didn't bother responding

He's a real bastard, isn't he? Don't have anything more to do with him.

Bin him off, he clearly is not interested if he is ignoring your texts having read them, the twat is feeling down etc but is happy to be out with friends.

Don't waste your time or energy, MOVE ON

Sorry but its way too much hassle. Even if his reasons are genuine, its not your fault is it? You're not in a full blown relationship so its not your job to try to make him feel better. If he was really keen he would be honest with you but he is just fobbing you off.
I wouldn't even bother dumping him, just stop messaging him and fade HIM out.

Bin him off! Rude to not respond. I'd bother with dumping just for my own benefit.

'Rude and cowardly to do the ol' fade out, not even have the decency to say we both need to move on. What a weasel. I'm looking for someone more mature and adult so off you pop. Bye!' and then block.

I asked him if we were ok a week ago and he didn't bother responding.

He's happy enough to go out with friends but not reply to my messages.

I think you have your answer here.

I spoke to him about ignoring the Are we ok? Message and he said he doesn't recall seeing it and now can't understand why I am "grumpy" about something that he can't remember!?

He maintains he hasn't done anything wrong. I've told him that I felt hurt but has not acknowledged this or apologised even though I said I'm sure he hasn't done it unintentionally.

I'm thinking he's either a self absorbed twat or is very emotionally unintelligent, either way I can't be bothered.

Bin him, it shouldn't be hard work at this stage.

I'm thinking he's either a self absorbed twat or is very emotionally unintelligent.

You have got it spot on OP.
Don't waste anymore of your emotional energy on him.

He's a self absorbed twat. Fo' sho'