How to have the talk

[Julu29]

Hi all,
Been seeing a guy for around 2 months. We have both spoke about the future as in making plans etc and he does seem quite keen. However, I feel like now is the right time to have “the talk” to see where he sees this going and how he feels as I am falling for him and I would like to know where it’s heading, if anywhere,before I get deeper.

I don’t want it to be a serious thing where we sit down and have a heart to heart as I don’t think we are there yet but I still maybes want to drop it in conversation? Or maybe even a text? I just don’t want to come across needy.
I haven’t dated for four years and I’m pretty out of the loop so any advice would be great. Thankyou x

I don’t want it to be a serious thing where we sit down and have a heart to heart as I don’t think we are there yet
are you fucking serious?

Two months isn't long enough for the 'future' talk IME, you're still getting to know each other. I'd be having the 'exclusive' talk around then.

Yeah I am “fucking serious” I don’t think we are serious enough to have a full on heart to heart. I’ve been burned in the past and I don’t think there’s any harm in asking where he sees this going.

I agree with PP, do the "are we exclusive?" talk but I wouldn't do the long term future talk for a while yet

I'm with witsending, it would be more the exclusive talk around this time not a talk about future plans for me, if someone approached me or a lot of my friends after two months of dating about where I seen this going and what future I see I'd think needy and see it as them wanting a heart to heart what else is it.
That said I wouldn't know the best way to bring this up after two months without it coming across this way could always drop a very short text when already texting each other like what isit your looking for from a relationship? After reply could ask if he sees it with you? But even that seems way out there for me tricky one

What do you want him to tell you? Are you OK with "it's only been a few months, I've not thought about the future"?

Check he's not looking to meet someone else, that's fine, but no one knows where something is going to go after such a short time.

Slow, down! But you would like you won’t be able to stop yourself.

Why can’t you just enjoy it for now and not scare him off!?

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