My DM has lived with me, on and off for the last 3 years. I've posted about the set up before, but basically it's not worked out (we'd all hoped they might stay with us for a decent number of years), and she and her husband are moving out today. They are going to go and live with DB. To cut a very long story short, DM and her husband don't manage their finances well at all despite earning okay money. They've no interest in saving and would rather have very nice annual holidays. I have tried to talk sense into her (they could have saved a lot during their years with us), but it's futile.
So here we are on move day. My DH has returned from overseas after 18 months and I'm delighted. We need our space. It's a big house but we need to enjoy it for ourselves, without mum and her DH under our feet. Yet I can't help but feel like we are forcing them out and I feel dreadful (though the decision to leave was mutual, I certainly encouraged them to move onwards). DM has helped me a huge amount over the years with childcare and as an emotional support while my DH has been away. I love her dearly, her DH I'm far less bothered about (see previous post).
I know I'm not being unreasonable to want my home to ourselves again, so why do I feel so guilty??? They aren't elderly or frail, both working, though my mum is in her 60's and would benefit from slowing down a bit. Her DH is younger.
Pls good people of MN give me some resolve and remind me that this set up wasn't normal in the first place and help me feel better about the situation. I'm surrounded by her boxes and I feel like the mother throwing out the wayward teen!