Furious at dh

[Shattered]

This might sound like a strange thing to ask, but does anyone else have partners/husbands who get cross with you in front of other people? My dh is usually quite placid but doesn't seem to cope well with things that bug him. He doesn't seem to have any qualms about getting annoyed with me in front of other people and although it hardly ever happens, when it does I feel embarrassed and furious with him for putting me in such a situation. I feel that if he wants to say something to me, he should save it for when we are alone and not in front of family or friends. It usually comes as a shock to me too because he usually reacts over something trivial that just happens to irritate him at the time. Most of the time we get along and he tells me every day that he loves me, but this side of him affects the way I feel about him. I have asked him before not to do it and sometimes he will apologise to me later, but it always seems to happen again. Has anyone else gone through something like this?

Shattered,

Yes, My DS who has plenty of faults of his own, likes to (or tends to) give the most dreadful putdowns in front of his own relatives. Thankfully, not in front of our friends. He is generally a mild-mannered chap and doesn't realise it. He never apologises (bit thick probably) and goes back to normal wanting affection etc. almost straightaway. There is no point in sulking, because he doesn't notice and I have to remind him of his bad behaviour, which he is then sorry about.

It is very tiresome, I often wonder if he is playing the big dominant man of the house role (if only!!) in front of others. I do sympathise, but you're right it happens again and again. Answer is, just don't socialise....

Clucks, don't you mean DH???

sister,

Yes, I do this on all the threads, it is dementia, brought on by the stresses of being bullied by everyone.

Clucks, do you mean you are bullied by mumsnet chatters or the family???!!