Partner got in my face

[Luluzz]

I'm not sure if I'm being overly sensitive but I'm feeling a bit uneasy about it. Last night me and dp had a bicker, trivial topic, but he became overly pissed off, started to raise his voice then he leant in right into my face and carried on. It was a bit aggressive and unlike him. I don't know if he was trying to be intimidating, or just not paying attention to his body language.

This morning he's been quiet and tried to glaze over but it's niggling me. Is it worth bringing up when he's home from work that I won't have that, I find it uncomfortable, or am I picking at it and need to forget it?

I think it's stood out because he's so calm and isn't agressive with me ever, so a bit of a non event feels like something?

I don't know if he was trying to be intimidating, or just not paying attention to his body language.

Unless he is constantly in everyone's personal space and has no concept of the idea, yes, he was trying to be intimidating. Did you back away, by any chance? That's what he would have wanted.

This morning he's been quiet and tried to glaze over but it's niggling me.

So he doesn't apologise, or admit he was wrong for getting in your face? Someone else will come and explain that and advise as to whether you should raise it with him.

You need to sit him down and talk to him and make him realise that is NOT acceptable behaviour and if he ever did that again you will kick him out.

Make him realise how upset you are by this. He knew what he was doing, he knows he's in the wrong but you need to make him realise you won't stand for it.

No I didn't back away, I raised my eyebrows got up and said don't ever get in my face like that again and went up to bed. No he hasn't apologised, we didn't really talk this morning.

I'll speak to him when he's home, no you're right and I won't put up with anything like that. Everyone argues on occasion and raising voices fair enough but I don't like the in your face thing - he's never done it before. We'll see when he gets in and everyone's cooled off if I get any acknowledgement it's not on. Last night I got "you're doing this, speaking to me like this, that's why I'm angry"

Yeah it has upset me tbh, we never speak like that to each other and for him to be like that over something really trivial - it's odd