Im going through a break up at the moment. We are sharing the house with the children, I am at my parents 3 nights a week and he is at his mums 4 nights a week.
I am always coming back to a messy house. Bin full, food bin full, untidy, washing basket full, generally very messy, sometimes dishes arent done etc.
I always leave the house tidy, but he sends picture messages to me of things I havent done to his liking. There was gaslighting, a lot of verbal abuse and almost constant criticism from him, to me in our relationship (hence the split). I am using the grey rock method and wont respond to todays picture (i put 2 towels over the same chair after the kids bath, instead of separately last night).
But i need somewhere to come and SCREAM because i spend at least an hour every time I take over from him cleaning up the mess he has left.
I cant wait to get my own place.