Do I try and get her back?

[sallyhoooo]

Il try and keep it short and not reveal too much.
I was seeing a lady who had not long been out of a abusive relationship.
She was a friend of a friend and we got on great and were really enjoying each other's company.
Mutual friend didn't like how close we were getting so started to shit stir...saying I was another crazy woman like her ex,and a caused a LOT of drama.
Woman I'm seeing ended it with me saying she couldn't go through the same again.
I stupidly text her some long messages trying to get my point across that this was all because of a jealous friend,it fell on deaf ears and she said that she believed her.
I really like this woman and think we could be great together.
I want to ring her and just chat and even if nothing happens again,I want her to see the truth and that I'm not the person this "friend " painted me to be and that it was jealousy.
Me and this woman still text daily and get on well,and I honestly think she's torn.
Do I try and fix this ?

[sallyhoooo]

It drives me mad that I can't defend myself.
I can't get my side across

[Shefliesonherownwings]

OP in all honesty I think you have to let this go. As frustrating as it is not to be able to put your side across, I really don't think it will have the outcome you want to if you were speak to your ex. I suspect it will make your relationship worse and won't make you feel any better.

For your own wellbeing move on and do your best not to let this resentment eat you up.

[FineWordsForAPorcupine]

It sounds like you have got your side across. You have sent long messages explaining your side. But you are convinced that if you could just have one more chance, youd be able to force this girl to see your side and get back together with you.

OP, you have to drop this. I don't want to be unkind, but you are coming across as very fixated and one track about this. You blame the mutual friend, as if the girl in question is incapable of making decisions for herself (which is weirdly patronising), and seem blind to the idea that she might have genuinely wanted to end the relationship.

This girl is not a computer which your friend has hacked into and reprogrammed, and you cannot get into her mind and heart and deprogram her back to your liking. And you might have to accept that, with or without this "friend" your girlfriend doesn't want to get back with you.

I'm sorry. I know it hurts.

[sallyhoooo]

All I know is she kept saying it was fine before I started pressuring her and she thought it was getting too intense so she ended it.

[amiapropermum]

From what you've posted on here previously it does as if maybe your anxiety about everything came across as pressure to her. It's also offensive to her to say she doesn't see things like everyone else and it's all down to the friend, as if she doesn't know her own mind. Put yourself in her shoes - she had you stressing her about seeing friends without you, then her other friend saying you're possessive etc. You can see how she would have believed the friend then. I don't think you can put this all on the friend, OP.

As a PP said, it sounds like you have gotten your side across already. For whatever reason, she has chosen not to be with you.

[sallyhoooo]

@amiapropermum yeah I agree I think I spoilt myself sending too many long messages.
There's no way of taking that back now.

[amiapropermum]

We live and learn. I know it's frustrating and disappointing but your peace of mind is the most important thing. If it's wrecking your head at the start then walk away

[kat83enzo]

You sound like a stalker