Personality over looks

[Cherryblossom200]

Hi everyone,

I’ve met someone online and this is the first person who I feel a bit of a connection with - only chatted on the phone, not met yet. Normally I go I dates with men I’m physically attracted to and it goes nowhere, I get bored and move on.

With this guy I find his job interesting, he works with nature which I love. He seems like one of the nice, genuine men who is relatively drama-free. Something I’m not used too 😆

My only concern is I’m not too sure I’m going to find him physically attractive 🥴

Can someone grow on you? I’m meeting him for a coffee soon.

Traditional good looks does not beauty give.
I just made that up off the top of my head
Seriously though the warmer and lovely a personality is the more beautiful they become imho.
It might take time but it definitely can work.
Good luck

I believe personality is more important than looks - I have dated good looking men in the past and they have been self absorbed. When I met my partner I didn't find him at all attractive but he kept asking me out until I said yes and he does make me laugh because he is so out spoken to people - they just don't know how to react to him. He once told this annoying woman to either shut up or go home - which everyone had been thinking but didn't have the nerve to say it to her. She was so shocked she did stop talking over everybody and started to listen to other people.

A friend of mine has been with her partner for around 15 years. She worked with him hated him at first then became friends with him and after around a year they began to go out and have been together ever since.

I've been attracted to lots of people who are not conventionally attractive because they are charismatic. It's worth meeting in person to see how you feel - intelligence, humour, interest etc can go a long way in making someone attractive.