Hi everyone my first post so please be kind, I met my partner in 2015, he had a job, quit within s couple months, got another job, quit after s couple of months, done the same aga in whilst I was pregnant basically had a break down aboun his anxiety so myself and his family encouraged him to go to the doctors which he did who signed him off of work for a couple of months sent him away with some meds and a counselling session, told him to come back next month. He never tried his meds properly for other then a few weeks, never showed up for counselling, he kept on going back to the doctors and getting signed off, try different strategies etc, well almost 4 years on and we're still doing the same thing, he still doesn't take his meds properly, still won't do counselling, it feels like he just goes to the doctors just to get signed off. Time and time again I've tried to encourage him to get himself back out there, create a life for himself, have something to be proud of have something that his kids can look up to him for, all the usual shit. I'm having enough now. I know he had mental health issues I also suffer with them myself but this is beyond a joke now, if he genuinely tried wih medications and counselling I would be not understanding but it's like he doesn't even want to help himself. I want Better for myself. I want som in who sees me and the kids important enough to take the steps he needs to to go back into work.i always imagined that I would have someone to look after me not the other way around. We're constant skint, constantly struggling.Tonight the subject turned into an argument and he got all uptight about it like he always does, and started saying stuff like "you don't understand" just go focus on yourself" I have tried for 4 long years to be supportive and understanding and my patience is wearing thin. Am I in the wrong for thirs? For saying I want to be looked after? Telling him he hasn't helped himself whatsoever. Any advice would be appreciated