When did you first tell partner you loved them?

[jaffa678]

Hi ladies,

Bit of the back story. I met someone 4 months ago, he’s 9 years older than me and has 2 little ones and I have a 4 year old daughter too. We met online, I had been single for 5months after coming out of 10 year relationship.
We don’t get a lot of time together as we’re both busy with our children / jobs / etc.
I have fell head over heels for him, and I know he feels the same.
When I’m with him I really want to tell him that I’m in love with him as I’m literally bursting 😁 and need to get it off my chest. But is it too soon? I’m scared of his reaction, he told me last night that he ‘likes me an incredible amount’. But I thought I’m going to hold back, we’ve got a nice weekend booked away on Friday. Do I tell him or is it too soon after 4 months.
Would love to hear all your stories about when you first said it/ other persons reaction? And how you actually said it? Feels very alien all this to me.
Thank you.

3 months. We were a little bit pissed having a really great shag and he blurted it out mid thrust. I responded in kind (I’d been mad about him our first date. I knew straight away the relationship ‘had legs’. He woke me up the next morning to tell me again.

I think it works,and is true for some people,when they tell a partner they love them,after just a short while,, but for others it's said, and then not meant after a while. as in just a word, and what is love blah blah blah.

It's lovely though,that people can say I love you, and its meaningful,and lasting.

When dating,and then married in the 60 era omg, my husband never told me he loved me, and I didn't say those words to him either. I like to think,we had an unspoken love ha ha..

I told him I was falling in love with him at 3 months. I actually said the words I love you at 5 months.

It was nearly a year before he actually said "I love you" from about the 5/6 month point he said "wub wub" and 6 nearly 7 years later, we always say wub to eachother instead of love, it's one of those relationship quirks that couple have, this one coming from him not being a very openly emotional person.

I said it after a couple of months. Like you I felt I was bursting to say it. I waited until it was dark and then said "I think I might be falling in love with you".
Luckily he replied that he thought he already was

DH told me on our 2nd date! We had known each other for a few months as friends before though. I didn't say it back until a few weeks later. It did change things, but in a good way, made us stronger. It's always nice to hear someone loves you! Good luck OP!

One week maybe two...

I told him last night. We've been together for 3 months. I had a few wines and we were in a restaurant. I've been bursting to say it - luckily he feels the same. Today I feel very bloody happy.

@chemicalworld aww that is lovely news, so happy for you. I’m going to have a few wines and spill. Wish me luck haha

I don’t know why you’re holding back, just say it! Such a lovely feeling!

I accidentally said I loved my now DH while we were having sex. I definitely meant it, I just intended to say it for the first time in a slightly more romantic way 😂

Fairly soon I think, we both said it. We were very much in love. We'd know each other about a year before we started going out and when we did, we knew it was the real thing.

I meant 'known', not 'know'.

@jaffa678 - do it. I have been nervous as hell!! I really wanted him to say it first but in the end I bit the bullet and told him how I feel. Wine definitely helped me get it out!

Yes, me and my fella have known each other for a few years too, so that has helped. I can see how happy he is.

Probably after about 2 months of dating. We were saying I love you by the time we were a proper couple

It seems from theses messages the majority are within 4 months. I think he defitnley loves me from his actions and things he says. So nervous haha but defintley a few wines or Gins and I will slip it out!