Women who tear other women down, why?

[Itsmostlygristlecath]

Can anyone give me any insight? A co worker tears down everything about me and everyone else (mainly other women) my hair, my teeth, my diet, my looks. All she talks about is what people look like, she seems to hate other women. Anyone ever been like this, is it insecurity? She bigs herself up all the time but can’t really be happy? It’s so draining.

Why are some people vile?

Hate this “women are uniquely unpleasant” trope.

Sorry about the title. It’s just all of her comments are about women.

@GilbertMarkham I can’t as she then starts on me and makes up rumours about me. Hopefully I can leave this job soon but don’t know how to handle it in the meantime.

When then all you can do is say nothing.

Try to move to only having work related conversation with her.

If you eat lunch with her, make excuses about having to do something/go somewhere and keep that up until it becomes the norm that you don't spend any time not strictly necessary for work around her.

If you want to leave anyway, ok - but what I feel like it's wrong if you don't that you should have to.move because of a sociopath.

I heard of an entire planning dept being decimated in this way because of an individual - those above her would do nothing about it and everyone left sooner or later.

"Sounds like she has some kind of personality disorder"

I have a personality disorder, am I a horrible negative person too?

You're not a doctor, you've never met this woman and you presumably know fuck all about personality disorder, so please give the damaging stereotypes a rest.

Just ignore, don't argue or engage with it.

Everyone probably knows she’s nasty. By not speaking up or defending yourself, you’re enabling her.

If you can’t run with my original suggestion then I’d start a record of the interactions.

When she comments on anything inappropriate tell her exactly that. “It’s inappropriate for you to discuss/make those comments and it makes me uncomfortable. If you continue I’ll be speaking to hr/management”

Well Liveinahidingplace are you a Cluster B personality disorder?
Look up the the criteria of the personality disorder you have and you tell us whether the characteristics are negative and horrible.

Yes, I am actually taboo .Well aware of the symptoms having been diagnosed for 15 years.

Just tell her (politely) that she’s a bitch and she needs to fuck off!

Ugh this post hits a nerve for me
I used to take a friend out regularly ( disabled)
and I wanted to just give her change of scenery
We took turns treating each other for lunch etc
She barely ate anything and I used to insist I buy her a dinner but “ no no I’m eating later “
Everything was pleasant ... friendly and civilised until she started to food shame me ... “ you don’t eat enough ...: blah blah blah “ ... became quite aggressive and it was very discerning and i was totally gobsmacked .. came out of nowhere at all
So I had to cut ties ... upset me a lot to do that as I really felt for her struggles with life ... she couldn’t understand why I became cooler and she actually cut the ties ... ugh was awful experience .. she is a lady who carry’s a bit weight .. at the time I was a stone slimmer
It totally threw me that she was harbouring such resentment towards me ...

Yeah I’ve had all the comments about what I eat. I eat too much, I’m too skinny. I wear make up only to attract men. I care what people think, I don’t care enough what people think. I never knew I was so ducking fascinating TIL I met this woman.

They can go jump can’t they 🤣

I imagine she's unhappy with life and insecure. Pulling women down is the only was she can make herself feel level with them.