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Hating my partner

16 replies

Woahriver · 09/09/2019 01:04

My partner wanted to wank off to a pornstar and I called him out on it and reversed it and said how would you like it if I did the same and he said you're right sorry, then tried to fucking deny what he had just said about wanting to wank off to a pornstar and tried to be all loving towards me, and I turned him down and said never speak to me ever fucking again, and he said hes gonna give me time to cool of and then he went to sleep like nothing fucking happened

OP posts:
TowelNumber42 · 09/09/2019 01:06

Never speak to you again. OK. So you just broke up with him but he doesn't believe he's just been dumped. What happens in the morning then?

Original poster
Woahriver · 09/09/2019 01:09

I dont own a time machine

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madcatladyforever · 09/09/2019 01:15

Why are you being rude to towel, nobody is asking you to be psychic just asking I'm guessing what your plans are for the morning. Are you pissed?

HUZZAH212 · 09/09/2019 01:19

Umm, so did he inform you he 'wanted to wank off to a pornstar'? Is this also the same husband who said you can't get a job because you'll fall in love 'like they do in the movies'?... 🙄

Original poster
Woahriver · 09/09/2019 01:32

When he wakes up, he will discover I'm leaving him. I'm fucking furious

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Tiredemma · 09/09/2019 01:35

How old is he? 15?

Original poster
Woahriver · 09/09/2019 01:40

33

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Sadiesnakes · 09/09/2019 01:57

Yep, they are happy enough to wank off to porn stars, our sisters/ friends, Snapchat / insta/ Reddit gw girls, you name it. There's at least a couple of posts on it here everyday..
But can't handle the thought of you doing it.

Buts it's ok for them because they are men with needs..Hmm

PurpleDaisies · 09/09/2019 02:12

From your other thread, it would like splitting up is probably for the best. Have you got a plan for where you’re going to go, or is it your house?

Skittlenommer · 09/09/2019 03:37

Your partner wanted to wank off to porn and so you’re leaving him? Have I missed something?

Sadiesnakes · 09/09/2019 04:44

Yeah @Skittlenommer we can't all be cool girlfriends Hmm

CrystalShark · 09/09/2019 05:09

But can't handle the thought of you doing it.

Who are these ‘they’ who are happy masturbating to porn but unhappy when their girlfriend or wife does it?

I mean I’m sure some exist, but I’ve never dated a man who doesn’t watch porn, and not a single one of them has ever had any issue at all with me or any other of their prior partners watching porn either. In my experience the overwhelming majority of people who watch porn don’t have any problem with their partners watching it too. That’d be very hypocritical and bizarre.

Skittlenommer · 09/09/2019 12:23

I just don’t understand the issue with porn! Never will!It’s not like he’s having a relationship with one of them or one of them is going to jump out of the screen! Pretty hypocritical of him to have double standards though!

TowelNumber42 · 09/09/2019 12:27

Is he gone?

Sadiesnakes · 10/09/2019 02:09

@Skittlenommer, We know you love porn, and have no problems with it's use in your relationship, you've told us plenty of times now.

But for a lot of others it's a horrible insidious element to a relationship, lies, deceit, betrayal trauma, addiction, pied, etc, I could go on.

You need to start learning to respect that.

Karkasaurus · 10/09/2019 08:31

I agree with Skittlenommer.

But sure, if the OP wants to leave him, she can. Just sounds a bit extreme to me.

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