Husband spending hours in pub, need advise

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What do I do? My husband is a drinker. I have always known this, but lately he's been going out Friday night til 3am, Saturday nights til 3am and Sunday afternoons from midday til 10pm. Am I being unreasonable to think he's taking the piss? We are trying to watch our finances but I am sure he's spending way too much in the pub. I don't know what to do, any advise?

We are trying to watch our finances

You mean you are trying to watch your finances. He's happily out pissing it up a wall.

He's an alcoholic. Drink comes before everything. Literally. There is no happy ending here. Only acceptance that you can't control, cure or change it.... and moving on.

What would you be happy with? One night a week perhaps? It's not just about the money, but the weekends are time for quality family time, and spending all weekend in the pub isn't conducive to this, not in the slightest.

Have you spoken to him about it? I think it's reasonable for you to want him to cut down his time in the pub a little. For sure.

You can’t do anything to change an alcoholic unless he wants to change himself.
You can only leave.

Run like hell. Head for the hills. Leave the bastard. Save yourself.

Pick any combination of the above.

Wow. That’s not normal. Jesus. He’s spending 28 hours per week in the pub. That’s only a few hours short of the equivalent of a full time job.

Either he has a serious drinking problem, or he’s having an affair and the pub is a useful cover. What does he say when you’ve told him that this isn’t acceptable and you need him to stop acting like a single man pleasing himself all weekend?

What does he do as a dad ? Is he hungover all day Saturday?
Does he stay in bed until he goes out again Sunday?

Whose he drinking with until 3am? That's clubbing not pubbing.....

You ok op?