It was someone I did my Masters with and we ended up back in touch a couple of years later, I was 27 and him 25.
He seemed to fancy me from the beginning, telling me I 'should be a model' and how pretty I was.
I was actually living abroad at the time but was due to go home a few weeks later. We were in contact every day, having in-depth chats and he was telling me how 'amazing " i was.
After our date, we said we liked each other and carried on seeing each other.
He stayed over on the 4th date.
Red flags: calling me' gorgeous ' in almost every line of his messages,' hey gorgeous, have you had a good day gorgeous '.
Asked him if he fancied a day trip to a big city about an hour from us. He froze and acted like id just asked him to marry me, and just said nothing.
Boasting about sexual escapades in his past.
Came to stay over without a toothbrush or anything, even though it was planned.
I had to go back abroad for a couple of months and he told me he was 'serious about me' and '100% wanted to be with me'. And how it felt so 'natural'.
We said we would see how long distance went and he planned to visit (i was 1h30 away).
He looked at flights but said this particular time was too expensive. I ended up coming back 1 weekend because my suitcase was lost and I came to get more clothes etc.
We had a fantastic date where he seemed really into me. Then, i could sense the change as soon as he dropped me off.
He stopped using any affection in messages, taking days to reply, avoided chat of future plans.
It was literally an overnight change, but he hadnt been weird at all on the date.
I put it down to him being stressed at work but after a few weeks i knew something was up.
I had booked my flight back and it was also his birthday so we talked about plans.
I eventually confronted him and he dumped me on Facebook even though we were meant to be meeting. He said I was lovely but he 'needed to be more challenged' but he 'reassured me' by saying i was 'really hot ".
I replied' oh well that's ok then isnt it 🙄' and called him a pussy for dumping me online, which he didnt react well to.
I didnt agree with everything he said, i wasnt' too available ' as it was an LDR, and he wasnt exactly' challenging' to me.
I then found out via Instagram hed met someone else a week later through OLD, meaning he had probs been looking before it was over with me.
I know he just wasnt the right guy but I dont understand how he could have suddenly changed his mind overnight, and how I can be more 'challenging'. I thought these kind of games were more for players who didnt want anything serious. Any thoughts ?