I'm getting scared now

[boringornot]

I have "checked out" from the marriage a few months ago. Abusive STBXH is getting more and more angry because I don't respond to provocations and have been avoiding fights.
I have spoke to a lawyer and a DV counselling. Planning to tell him next week it's definitely over.
But he has been turning more violent as he sees he's losing ground. Have 2 DC, 9 and 6yo.
Last week he stabbed the dinner table with a very sharp knife (that got stuck) and then kicked the chair down. (DC didn't see it)
Today he said "mummy only does shit" and told us (me and DC) that he has to "teach us responsibility" among other things. As if he is the "owner" of the family.

We come from South America, his dad is misogynistic and his mother worked up until 80 years old just to avoid staying home with FIL.
What can I do to protect myself and the children? We are not in the UK, but in Germany. We rent the house and have to give 3 months notice. I have no savings.
I know I can call the police, but I'm scared anyway.

I would call this organisation:

www.hilfetelefon.de

Whereabouts in Germany are you? I spent a lot of time in NRW. There is help in every Bundesland though.

He sounds very dangerous. Do you have friends/helpful neighbours? First things first though, contact this organisation,

I would ask for emergency help. Tell them about the violence and ask to be moved into a women's shelter. A friend of mine did this.They have now housed her in her own flat. You need to get away from him quickly.

I would not tell him you are leaving though, he could seriously harm you or the children.

Thanks @Gemma ! I called them and they directed me to local organisations. Have been in contact with Frauennotruf Frankfurt (I live close to Frankfurt).
Will talk to them again on Tuesday. In the meantime, he bullies everyone, the children behave badly, everyone screams. It's hard to keep calm among all this.

Talk to them as soon as you can and ask for emergency accommodation. In the meantime, try to spend as much time out of the house as possible. And do not give him any idea of what you are doing. Make sure your phone is password protected.

I can't really give you any advice on how to cope in the meantime, but I would just act normal, be as nice and calm as possible, even pretend things are ok. The last thing you want is him knowing you are planning to escape. If he is already behaving this violently, he may flip out.

So be as cool as a cucumber and pretend you are acting to win an Oscar. Then take action as soon as you can without breathing a word. And say nothing about leaving to your children.

I haven't told him yet because I'm afraid. But I can continue like that forever. Every weekend he is angrier.

Good that you are close to Frankfurt and not in the middle of nowhere, that means there are plenty of facilities.

I sincerely recommend that you do NOT tell him and that you leave with your children while he is not at home with the help of the women's association, and if necessary, the police, to a shelter. From what you have said, he may try to kill you.

That is what my friend did. Her ex threatened her and kicked her around. She left while he was out.

Thanks a lot, Gemma. It really helps to talk to someone :)

@randommess thank you ❤