I'm not sure if this is me, or whether I need to back up and draw some strong boundaries.
It is MIL related, but I have history with my mother who I'm LC with so I'm not sure I'm seeing problems that aren't there.
MIL has historically been really good to me.
Two years ago when DS moved out she volunteered to pop in on the dogs when we were at work due to financial pressures. She has been doing this every time needed without fail, and as she won't take recompense for this we pay for a weekend away, and various theatre trips, etc per year instead.
When she lets the dogs out she picks up any post that we have had and puts it on the table. When she does this she texts me or calls to say that I have post, what company it is from, asks me why I have post from that company or makes a supposition as to what it is. She tried to persuade me to let her open my son's college results when they came through the door!
We can't buy anything without her passing comment.
She keeps a close eye on Facebook, and I get regularly asked why dh (her son) has done this/that.
She comments about money constantly.
She also constantly goes on and on about DHs ex, whether he did x,y,z with her, etc when the only time he sees ex is when he sees his son or if they go to a school play together or health appointment. I'm pleased he has such an active role in his son's life, but mil seems to want to drive a wedge.
Most of the time I ignore her, but I'm close to snapping after her recent spate of it and if I'm honest I don't really want to see her at the moment.
She denigrates dh's ex all the time which I call her out on because she is a great mum to DSS.
She has hardly any relationship with her other son because she is open about favouring my husband which results in bil not visiting, and sil won't go round because of the way she treats her.
I feel stuck because the only chance she get to see DSS is when she comes to us eow.
I know that when I change jobs I need to get a dog sitter.
She is blocked on any social media, and I tend to ignore her texts but I'm really struggling.
DH didn't speak to her for a year pre-me so is keen to maintain some kind of relationship