Anyone else?

[belle40]

A week ago I relocated to start a new life with my young child following a really tough 5 year period including divorce and the breakdown of my subsequent relationship due to his (exP) prolonged affair. Everything should be perfect, lovely house, excellent job, brilliant school...however, I have drunk 3 bottles of wine during the past three evenings and feel terrified. Does anyone have any good experiences of relocation and a better life??

It's ok. It just takes a little time to adjust.

Take stock of everything you have achieved.
Take a moment every day to be thankful you have a peaceful home for you and your child.

As a single mum who did the same thing when my daughter was very young I understand the isolation etc but it will pass.

How old is your child?

Thanks @Jeaux90

She is going into reception. I felt it was the best time to go before settled into school.

I’m
In the same boat- moved my family

Moved my family earlier this summer. Going through divorce. I’ve done what I wanted logistically but I’m desperately lonely and anxious about the future. Life just feels hard and I can’t see anything positive in the future. I am also drinking every night.

Just breathe, take one day at a time

I feel you. I did it and it didn't work well for me but I didn't have a support system. Could you post where you have relocated to? There might be people who would meet for a coffee and a chat. I would if you were close

@littlemy20

Well done. I think is it fear of the unknown too. I am hoping that as we find a new routine things will start to normalise. I'm a bit anxious for my daughter, she is being brilliant but underneath it all she is anxious

OP the summer holiday must be the worst of it over with. Now we can begin to establish a routine and with that will come greater familiarity and feeling more “ at home”. My children are very young but I see the anxiety too. It’s going to be ok. Better than it was.

Your daughter is really young too. As a single mum I found the early years the most lonely. Try and make an effort on the school run with the other parents in terms of introducing yourself etc

My DD is now 10 and it's wonderful. She does lots of other clubs (cubs etc) I have got back into my swimming, and we have a routine.

Honestly it does get easier.

Thanks @jeaux90. I feel a bit guilty sometimes as I don't want to wish the time away but I do feel quite alone. Fingers crossed for some friendly mums on the school run!

Belle also ask one of the parents if there is a Facebook group for the class parents. There often is, and usually there is a class rep etc and sometimes they organise social meet ups that way too.

Don't feel guilty, it's just hard when they are young, it's quite isolating.

I promise it gets easier but do try and change the routine sometimes, days out, walk in the country, sounds silly but this helped me be really content about the weekend evenings. They were about relaxing after a busy day rather than monotony.

I relocated a year ago and it’s so lonely . I have nobody . My kids are too old for me to meet parents on the school run so I only meet people through work . I’ve found they already have their friends so I don’t get included in anything .
I hope you find it easier to meet new friends as your child is younger so you will have more interactions .
I am over 3 hours from my old friends so rarely see them now and have no family .
It was my decision to move away - but I often feel I’ve made a massive mistake . Isolation is awful.