Need advice

[nic96]

My partner and I have been together 2 years a recently moved in together with DS who is now 11 months.

My partner was no support through my pregnancy and I thought and was told by him that he would change when the baby was here. Didn't happen. He works full time and usually goes for a pint after work on a Friday and Every Saturday he leaves the house at 12pm to play football and I don't see him again until around 1-2am. I'm sick of this and I've told him he needs to grow up abit and act like a dad.

I'm at the end of my tether and I have no idea if I'm being unreasonable to ask him to spend more time with us as a family and help out with DS because he definitely isn't doing either at the moment.

Has anyone else had this problem? I don't know what to do

Nope, YANBU.

He needs to grow up. But if having an actual baby in the house hasn't changed his behaviour, I'm doubtful that he ever will.

How old are you both?

He's sounds young as in his twenties. It seems like you have two babies on your hands. I would not be happy if it were me. He is entitled to go to his football etc but he's not factoring you or your child into the equation. Don't be a doormat....

I'm 23 he's 24

Think you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel/ lay it on the line. He should be able to balance family time and football/socialising. If you are at home looking after the house and baby, then he is free to do what he wants. You will both need to compromise on his free time.