Marriage in tatters and no1 to talk to

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Hi new to this but really struggling on what to do for best am 36 my oh is 35 been 2gether 12yrs married 5yrs we have 2 girls 2 gether 10 and 9 I also have a 16yr old from previous relationship my oh has cheated and lass is 5weeks all came out few days ago they r both sayin it happened only once he wants to be with me and wants nothing to do with her but I really don't no if I can she WAS a friend my head is all over can't eat sleep or think straight xxx

Nothing super useful to say but that sounds pretty grim. 💐
Sweet tea is often recommended at these times.

I’m just off to sleep but I didn’t want to leave this unanswered. I’m so sorry to read this OP. What a shit he is to do that to you and your children. I couldn’t forgive but you may feel different. From what I’ve read on here men often minimise what happened in an affair - say it only happened once etc. so don’t necessarily believe him when he says that. The fact he didn’t even use contraception and put you at risk as well as getting this woman pregnant would mean I could never trust him again.

But if she continues with the pregnancy he cannot have nothing more to do with her as they will share a dc.

She's keeping baby said she didn't think she could conceive and it's a miracle baby or she would ov got rid why would they both say it only happened once tho she got nowt 2 lose and she made sure I found out also I am 18 weeks pregnant xxx

He's saying it was a mistake and he didn't want this she told me that when she told him he said it's nowt 2 do with him and he loves me

He doesn’t love you or respect you if he’s sleeping with someone else. And no way did it only happen once. You need to seek legal advice to see what you’re entitled to.

I’m sorry this shitty man has put you and your children in this awful position. Wishing you strength to get through it.