Leading up to our DDs birth DP had been anything other than supportive, he constantly left the flat in a state and I was always cleaning while he didn’t lift a finger. On one occasion he even moaned that I asked him to simply go around the corner shop to get some bread for breakfast and it was pouring with rain (I ended up going out to get it and this was on my due date) anyway he was just very little help but I plodded on.
On the night I went into labour I got up at about 1am to find him still up playing on the Xbox, I told him I was in labour. He called the maternity ward and I thought great.. next thing I knew he told me he was going to bed to get some sleep. Come 6am I was in agony, obviously, and pissed off he was in bed.. so told him to get up as I thought we should head to the hospital! It was at this point that he started packing his bag (I was a week overdue and had been telling him for weeks to pack a bag as I had done DDs and mine and wasn’t about to do his). So needless to say this frustrated me further. Got to hospital and although my contractions were close together I was only 3cm so off we went back home, but with no help from DP he pretty much walked off and was no help. Didn’t let me lean on him nothing. So back home, I got into bed thinking he’d be there to support me but instead he went into the living room to watch prison break.. yes prison break. Fast forward an hour and we were back in hospital and I was 6cm I asked DP to use the massager on my lower back instead he thought looking at his phone was more important, then he turned off the playlist I had because ‘no one was listening to it’ and in general just wasn’t any support whatsoever. Anyway because of all of this I feel it is now affecting our relationship, I just now see him as being a selfish prick and like I can’t trust him to be there for me. Doesn’t help that he hasn’t been a handson Dad either. Am I unreasonable for feeling this way? Was his behaviour during labour pretty standard for men