It's Got To Get Easier .... Right??

[LetsBreakItDown]

I'm going through a break up. It's recent, in the past week, it was my decision, but it's not what I want, just what I think is best. I'm hoping he will open his eyes and things will change but I'm trying to move forward.
I can't sleep. I can barely eat. I feel physical pain aswell as emotional pain. And I know it is early days, but I can't see an end to this turmoil, it all seems really bleak. And this is so out of character for me. I'm struggling just to get through the day. If it wasn't for my DC, I'm not sure I'd even be managing. I want to speed up the healing process and just get on. Don't know why I'm posting really, I guess I just wanted to get it out. I don't want to talk about it with people IRL yet. I'm just so gutted.

How you are feeling is compleatly normal and yes the pain does fade eventually. Just take one day, one hour at a time, the fact that you have children to carry on for is in a way grounding.

I advise people who are in the first few days of a break up to stick to eating easy nutritious foods such as soups and smoothies as they are easier to stomach. Drink plenty of water, try to get out for a walk every day, it will help to keep your strength up both physically and mentally.

Gather as much support around you as you can, be that real life support and online support. Lean on your friends and family if they are supportive types.

Use your childrens routines as a framework for your day and try to give yourself time in the evenings to do calming relaxing activities, such as watching tv, reading, bathing and general winding down.

Taking immune support multi vit and minerals, vit c and vit d may help you to stay healthy whilst you are going though this. Things like valerian root tea, hops and camomile may help you to rest/sleep better at night.

I hope that you feel better soon

Im in the same situation OP :( I want him back.. but i dont want him back. I miss the fun we had and the way he made me feel when things were good, but i have to keep remembering why i ended it in the first place and i have to be respectful to myself because i am harming myself by staying with him. Sometimes we have to do things we dont want to to protect ourselves :( Try to keep postive because you made this decision for your own good, for your own well being, you wouldnt have done it if it wasnt going to benefit you. Dont rely on what you feel now, keep your eyes on the future, when you will be over this (because you WILL get over this) and soo much healthier and happier.

It doesn't feel that way right now. I decided to go no contact, and we haven't spoken, but I don't know if that will last. My heart is in bits, and it's taking over my head sometimes, though I've managed to hold it together. I (think) this is the right choice, though part of me thinks I done it because I was angry (that has subsided, now I'm just sad and questioning)

He's my best friend. I feel like I've lost a part of me. We talked all day everyday, saw each other all the time. If something funny is on tv or I see it online, I automatically go to message him, then realise I can't anymore. It's such a lifestyle change and it's so painful.

Now the anger had subsided are you sure there's no way forward for the relationship?

Anger is good but not to make important decisions on.

It sounds like on the most part you were happy.

Hi OP, the first day isn't always the hardest day but it is one of the hardest. The first week isn't always the hardest week but it will also be one of the hardest. After that, the first month is nearly always the hardest month, they get better.

Time really does heal, you need to adjust to all of the things that are different, each time one crops up you'll probably cry. Everything is a reminder today but it does get better. It really does.

And questioning your decision is totally normal but I know people don't make these decisions based on one angry exchange or incident, it's a culmination of things. Think of the things that made you angry when you pine for him, think of the negatives rather than the upheaval. If you still want him after that then you probably need to decide if you can live with nothing changing, as nothing would change.

Good luck OP, many of us have been there and many of us have come through the other side far better for it.

Well, I've got through today at work ok, but came home and cried a lot. This is ridiculous. I can't handle it. I'm struggling to accept that he will no longer be in my life. It's a hard blow to take!

What made you end it?

He's done something I don't agree with. Not cheating. But it's bad to me.

Ok xx we all have a line that we feel if crossed would be too much x

How have you been today?

@Sansastark45 to be honest, I'm worse than I was at the start. I've been bawling like a wild animal. It's taking all my strength not to message him. I really do miss him. And before this, I literally couldn't fault him, our relationship was perfect, we barely fought, always laughed, had the best days out/holidays. It's hard to accept that all that is gone so quickly.

Oh no ! Is it definitely over? You can't try something to help move on but stay together?

@Sansastark45 I'm really not sure 😔 I'm going to get through this weekend I think, then see how I feel.