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Help me with this text situation

20 replies

Abney123 · 05/09/2019 07:59

If you've arranged to see someone tomorrow and they send you a general text in the morning with 'see you tomorrow xxxxx' at the end, do you assume from this that you won't hear from them again until you see them tomorrow? I assumed that but clearly I was wrong and they are funny with me now as I didn't call or message in between that and seeing them I'm not very good at picking up on subtle stuff like this! For some reason, to me, unless it's to change plans or just check all still ok, 'see you tomorrow' implies the end of the conversation until then.

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EAIOU · 05/09/2019 08:02

I would take it the same way.

If its someone you recently met, their behaviour is odd.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 05/09/2019 08:06

Whoever it is, they sound hard work.

MulticolourMophead · 05/09/2019 08:09

I also would take it the same way, "see you tomorrow" is definitely a conversation closing phrase. It's a bit odd for someone to expect further messaging after sending something like that.

Original poster
Abney123 · 05/09/2019 08:16

Phew! Glad I'm not crazy. This is in quite a long line of stuff that I seem to get wrong in their eyes and can't see the wood for the trees at the moment.

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Grobagsforever · 05/09/2019 08:18

Gosh how tedious, I'd give them a very wide berth. Grown adults getting grumpy about texts is ridiculous

Walkacrossthesand · 05/09/2019 08:22

Beware, abney, if this is a pattern of behaviour it sounds suspiciously like someone messing with your head to keep you on the back foot and uncertain. Why would a nice person want to do that with someone they're (presumably) dating? Answer - they're not nice. Feel free to post more examples but from what you say, it doesn't look good.

PennyPittstop · 05/09/2019 09:48

That many kisses on the end of a message would make me run the other way anyway. Definitely a bit full on.

PlinkPlink · 05/09/2019 09:50

I read it as he/she was excited about seeing you tomorrow. The phrase is usually a conversation closer but the kisses at the end signal excitement to me.

Drum2018 · 05/09/2019 09:54

Phew! Glad I'm not crazy. This is in quite a long line of stuff that I seem to get wrong in their eyes and can't see the wood for the trees at the moment

Is it a person you can do without in your life? If so ditch them. If it's a parent, sibling, just have it out with them. If it's a partner and you are not tied to them by kids, consider getting the hell awy from them. You don't need to have someone in your life who is making you second guess everything you do.

TheSecondMrsAshwell · 05/09/2019 14:28

No, if I were to put that on the end of a text, that would be me saying "okay, done now. Off to do other stuff." Likewise, if I sign off a late-night exchange with "sleep well." that means that I'm off to snoozy land and nothing else will get a reply.

If this were isolated, I'd just sit whoever it is down and explain this to them. As it's one of a long line of stuff, I agree with PPs - leave them to play text games with someone else.

Cath2907 · 05/09/2019 14:36

Yeah - that's my signal for the end of the conversation..

hellsbellsmelons · 05/09/2019 16:20

I'd probably reply with a 'thumbs up' or a 'Yeah, see you then xxx' type thing.

AMAM8916 · 05/09/2019 23:39

If they had said 'can't wait to see you tomorrow' that would be different but saying 'see you tomorrow' is definitely the end of the conversation and I'd have replied 'looking forward to it' and said nothing else until I saw them.

Whoever it is, they are high maintenance

MissBehaves · 05/09/2019 23:46

Sounds exhausting.

I hate innocent behaviours being micro-analysed with the predictable ensuing tedium of being invited to pick over the bones of an obviously meatless corpse.

Life is too short op.

MissBehaves · 05/09/2019 23:47

Incited*

MargoLovebutter · 06/09/2019 09:39

See you tomorrow is definitely a phrase that signals the end of an exchange IMO. They're being weird and if they get the hump about something like that, what are they going to be like about the big stuff?!

HotChocolateLover · 06/09/2019 09:41

I think you’re over thinking it OP. If you fancy texting again then go for it, if you don’t then don’t. It’s early days but if he’s annoying you now then he probably isn’t the one.

CIareIsland · 06/09/2019 09:43

Agree it’s them not you. If they are v tricky frequently - just fade the relationship - adults don’t need this nonsense.

FatherFintanFay · 06/09/2019 10:19

I would have taken it the same way as you, OP. With your update, it sounds like this person is putting you on the back foot more often than not, and if I were you I'd be either having a word with them about it, or sacking them off, depending on who they were and how long the relationship was. They sound like an energy drain.

Numberwang2019 · 06/09/2019 11:07

That would signal the end of communication until the next day for me too - this person sounds like far too much hard work! x

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