Ex being nasty

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I split from my ex because we cannot get on.
We see money differently. He has debt I don't.
He gets angry and I rotated over the slightest of things.
We've been together for 4 years but the last year we've tried to make a go of it, talking, promises of changing but it never happens
We always said if it doesn't work - and it hasn't - we would be amiable for my lo who's 8 as they are close.
However the last time we argued, he was quite nasty to me, talking down to me and some of it was in front of her. He's full of moods and Gets irritated and I've iust come to my senses that I do not want that for me and my daughter
He now is being nasty as I've told him tonight I don't think it's right he still have access to her. He's flipped, called me a nasty bitch and for very angry down the phone.
This is my whole point exactly why I don't want to be with him.
I said initially that would be better for her to fizzle it out incase she was upset suddenly not seeing him but I don't want him texting / calling as I just want to move on but he's calling me a bitch as he still wants to see her ?!
I feel like I'm in a rut as he's quite controlling and if I don't agree with him then I'm wrong. He's never wrong and always right. I feel quite scared as in I'm walking on egg shells
But I'm trying to do right by my daughters

What shall I do

I would block him completely out of your life and your child's life. Absolutely no more communication of any kind. Call the police if he shows up at your home and do NOT open the door.

I did agree that he can have contact if it didn't work out, but as he has been quite mean and nasty to me I don't feel he has that right? Also he cannot see that he has been mean or nasty so it's all upsetting. He turned things around to me saying he feels I don't love him? But I did love him I just feel maybe his behaviour as made me see him in a different light if that makes sense
At one point I thought it would work with him so I do feel hurt and sad but also I can't have someone in our life's with this awful moodiness and up and down
It's horrible to live with x

So I'm not being unreasonable?

Of course YANBU. Your responsibility is to protect your child, not to pander to his abuse and tantrums.

I don't know what right or wrong anymore
Am I wrong to not let him have any contact even though I promised it
He does love her - she is asking about him so they spoke on the phone tonight
But then I called him and said I don't think we can keep doing this as I feel I will never move on and my friend said she thinks its what he wants
But he isn't sorry for his behaviour and he cannot see he's done any wrong
We are wrong for each other so does that mean I'm wrong for saying he can't have contact
I'm not sure why he wants contact
Ex should be ex
It's like I feel I can't move on from him even though I want to

He wants contact to keep control over you, it's as simple as that. It's time to stop being weak and do what you know is right for you and your daughter. Get this man out of your life permanently. Block him NOW and move on. You don't owe him a damn thing.

He has been nasty to you not your DD. As much as I understand your POV, your DD best interests come first. If he is good with her and they have a bond, would it not be beneficial for her to still see him?

Yes exactly that, maybe I've been too hasty in saying he can't see her and that's why he's flown off the h handle