Why do guys loose interest after date?

[GoingfullBoyle]

I've been OLD for the past couple of months and been on dates with two guys. Both initially seemed very interested and were very chatty exchanging messages several times throughout the day. The dates themselves have been fun and the guys have seemed to find me attractive IRL and had a good time.
However, after the first date with one guy he seemed to take longer to reply until we gradually stop texting.
I've since been on two dates with another guy and noticed the same thing beginning to happen. It's made me question if this is a normal part of OLD or something I'm doing wrong? Any ideas?

I think some men (and women) online have got caught in the trap of thinking there's always something better; and maybe they aren't really quite as ready for a relationship as they'd thought so they keep going through initial flirty date phase and then move onto someone else. Make sure you don't invest too much in someone before you've had a few dates and then you can let it go a bit more easily when this happens (as it's not about you! It's all about them and they'll be doing the same to other women!). When you find someone genuine who is ready for a relationship you will know after a couple of dates, they will show you they're committed. Don't worry but stay strong! I met my husband online so I have been through this!! Wishing you loads of luck x

Hi OP, yes its not unusual. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong, or that they didn't fancy you. It quite likely they are dating other women too so have perhaps decided to focus on someone else. A lot of daters see it like a sweet shop and are constantly swiping/searching even when they meet someone.
My advice is not to over-invest in anyone and continue to chat/date more than 1 person if you can until you decide you want to become exclusive.

Completely normal behaviour with OLD. Many men and women use OLD to boost an ego that has been hurt due to older relationships. Some people dont want a relationship but really enjoy the dating aspect and move on after a couple of dates. I did this for about a year and really enjoyed my time with OLD and met lots of nice men but I wasn't ready to move on at the time, I thought I was but the dating made me realise I wasn't. As other posters have said, don't invest in anything, have no expectations other than in the moment. If you go for several dates, thats great but what quite often happens is that it peters out after a while if there isn't anything in common to keep you together. Keep going and just enjoy the ride.

Thank you for your insight so far. I deliberately screened potential dates to ensure they were wanting a relationship but agree it probably is them wanting to keep their options open and 'play the field'.
I am finding OLD quite tough as it seems very superficial which is frustrating as I hoped it would be a better way to meet someone decent

It's normal. I'm sure you've also met guys who you thought were nice but didn't have that special connection with. I know I have been on both sides.

There's only so much you can learn about a person without meeting them.

You can screen people all you like OP however, you’ll never truly know someone’s true intentions, so you need to take leaps of faith. You’re doing nothing on the face of it.

I agree with @crappyday2018, they are more than likely multidating.

Doing nothing wrong!

It happens. But its not exclusively men who do this OP.
People sometimes just don't click with someone in real life. It's very different to getting on via text or IMs. Non-verbal cues are really important.
I don't think they are doing anything wrong, they just clearly aren't that in to you.

this question relates to everyone, not just men! If you don’t go after a 2nd date it means they didn’t feel a connection or felt something about that person was incompatible with their lifestyle.

Haven’t you ever gone on a date & not felt the vibe before ? OLD is full of dud dates that make for funny stories. Just because someone finds you attractive doesn’t mean they will make a good 2nd date !