How do I move on ?

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I have recently found out my ex has a new gf. We split around 6 months ago, but we have still spent a lot of time together 'for the sake of the children'. Although to be honest this time has also been is rebuilding our relationship. I genuinely thought we would get back together and life would be good. I know we have no hope as a couple as I will never get over this.

But how do I move on. I am heartbroken again. Right back where I was when he first left me. This is all a bit of a shock.

I have lots of friends, a really supportive family and a good job. But I feel so alone.

I cannot bare the thought of him having them at weekends and me not seeing them. (Selfish I know, and I would never stop them going there ) but the thought fills me with dread.

Please help me - any advice. I am just broken at the moment.

I have name changed.

To avoid drip feed.- I am 29, 3 kids 7/5/5. Mortgage together but he is currently renting a flat separately.

Why is he having them at weekends? What about your weekends? I hope it's not every weekend?

First of all...it WILL get better. Think of it like the weather...it's currently bad. At some point, it will change....and you'll realise that you're not sad all the time. Did he bring you to believe that you were working on your relationship during these times you spent time together? Did he actually say that?

Hi @HennyPennyHorror thank you for replying.

1. He has never had them at weekends, we have spent them together. He will occasionally take them out for the day but not overnight. From speaking to him today, he wants them every other. Which I know is completely reasonable. But I've always done the lions share of parenting. And it will be hard not to have them. Sorry if I wasn't clear !

1. Yes. He led me to believe that he just needed some space and everything will be alright between us. He openly said he didn't want to be without me.

I feel so so stupid for believing him. I know how pathetic I am being. Just really hurt and let down I guess.

I’m sorry that’s a pretty awful thing for him to do. False hope is a terrible thing to inflict on someone. People do know what damage their actions cause.

Time, it’s just time really, and some counselling for yourself. We can at times be complicit in believing what we want and ignoring what we don’t want to be true. But that doesn’t make it any easier. And it doesn’t make it your fault.

But I would sit down with someone in RL and talk through it all, it will help you to come to terms with it.

You will be ok one day though. That much I promise.