DP not listening to me

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Name changed.

So me and DP have this issue.

Whenever I bring up any issue that really means a lot to me be it our sex life or how much time we spend together, he sights my mental illness as the problem, that I'm being 'crazy again' and I wouldn't think any of this if I had 'a clear head' - bear in mind whenever I have spoken to him I have had full capacity and am well medicated/in recovery with my mental illness - I've noticed if I agree with him saying 'yeah I was just being stupid' he forgives me and then it's back to normal again with nothing ever resolved.

I'm just sick of this feeling of being unheard. A couple of nights ago I spoke to him and he just shut me down instantly saying I was being crazy/oversensitive again.

How do I speak to him better without him shutting me down so much? I don't really understand what I'm not doing or am doing wrong here.

Thanks a lot for reading.

Wow, didn't want to read and run.

He sounds awful. It's not you!

You need to find someone who respects you as he has no respect for you at all.

He has no respect for you or your feelings - 🗑

Calling someone with a mental illness 'crazy' is so ill mannered and offensive. That kind of ignorance is ugly. He doesn't like or love you. That's why he's unkind. He's also not interested in anything you have to say. That's why he's sweetness and light only when you agree with him. His toxic attitude is no good for your wellbeing. Can you get support from friends and relatives?