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Pregnant with ex’s baby

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Starships9089 · 02/09/2019 13:18

This is a long one but I’m desperate for any advice
I cannot stop crying, my mind is in over drive, my eyes are sore and my life is an absolute shamble. Just as I thought things were getting better they’ve come crashing down again.
Me and my daughters dad split properly at the beginning of the year, we went through a bit of a rocky stage but slowly started getting on for the sake of our daughter. These past few weeks we’ve been messaging and spending time together. He’d been filling my head with stuff about how we can move in together one day, extend our family and saying how nice it’s been spending time with me. There’s been 3 occasions now where we’d planned to go out and he’s cancelled because he went out the night before till silly o’clock so me and my 3 year old are sat ready waiting for nothing. It makes me feel like utter crap, so worthless and just a inconvenience. Last weekend we spent the night together, he invited us round We diddnt go until the evening because yet again he was hungover, he was snapping at our daughter because she was in the way, shouting because she dropped some food and I just felt unwanted. Anyway, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I’m absolutely devastated. The ‘man’ who’s told me he wants another baby and non stop banging on about it has now told me I need to have an abortion. From that comment he clearly has no intention of making our relationship work. I feel broken, what on Earth am I meant to do?! For my daughters sake I need to stay strong but I just don’t know how to do it. As a 23 year old, this is not how I expected my life to be

OP posts:
NewMe2019 · 02/09/2019 13:22

You slept together last weekend and you've just found out you're pregnant?

Starships9089 · 02/09/2019 13:40

No, we’ve been sleeping together for about 8 weeks

OP posts:
NoBaggyPants · 02/09/2019 13:44

If you want the baby that is entirely your choice, not his. You'll be a single parent, but it sounds like that was inevitable with this partner anyway. There's plenty of time to meet someone who is not a dick.

AMAM8916 · 02/09/2019 13:49

I would keep the baby and end this on/off, are we/aren't we thing going on with your ex. He made a choice to have sex with you, presumably with no protection so his feelings that he wants you to get an abortion are irrelevant. It's your body, you will be the one with the most responsibly for at 9 months anyway and it's 100% your choice. You will also have to bare the biggest brunt of an abortion.

That's what I would do but you aren't me and have to make your own choices. He's messing you about and because of that, you are the one making huge decisions. You will have a full brother or sister for your daughter which would be nice and it's up to him whether he plays a proper role or not

whattodowith · 02/09/2019 13:51

It’s either continue being a single parent to one or become a single parent to two. Your relationship is definitely over so this is your decision to now make.

HJWT · 02/09/2019 14:56

Do what YOU think is best for you and your DD, and cut this worthless pr.ck out of your life 💐💗

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