OK so long story. Sorry
ExH and I split up well over a year ago. We get on well although he annoys me as exH do. We have one DC.
Last Xmas was spent as normal with my parents (exH included) as thought it would be better for DC.
He had a girlfriend for a couple of months so assumed he would spend Xmas with her as his family live in a different country. So I was really looking forward to having Christmas with my dp and my family.
ExH and his gf have since split up and I feel terrible that he will spend Xmas on his own. Dp and exH get on fine (will chat if see eachother out, buy eachother a pint etc) so dp has said he feels terrible aswell if exH was to spend Xmas alone.
So, we have told my parents (exH still sees them regular) that if they want to invite him for Xmas then we have no issues.
Problem is I know I'm doing the right thing but I'm kind off upset as it's mine and dps first Xmas together and we will be spending it with exH there. ExH is always invited by my family to things like birthday meals etc but I'm kind of wondering when he will be seen as my ex and that dp is now my partner.
Family get on great with dp so that's not an issue, they just don't want exH to feel left out.
I feel stuck between doing what I think is right (having exH with us at Christmas) and being selfish and wanting Christmas to be with my family and dp. Moving forward.
Anybody been in this situation? Or anyone got any views on this? I just can't work out what to do.