Kik

[StanleyBostitch]

Does anyone know why an adult would have Kik on his phone? I thought maybe it was a Google thing and downloaded automatically on his android phone, but I can see in his history that it's been opened in the last 24 hours. No chats, but there is an account.

Kik is really bad I found out the hardest way a year on and I still can't come to terms with what my husband was doing with more than one woman xx

I wonder how many chances he would give me if our positions were reversed.

Yes exactly, I always wonder that when men cheat!

"so I've tried to work through the issues that DH has presented to me that are apparently his reason for straying"

There are no reasons to justify your husband straying! He does it because he knows he can get away with it!

If you dont leave him he will continue to do this to you for the rest of your life!

He might be your whole world but he certainly doesn't think of you in the same way!

He will say all the right things but all that will happen is he will will get more devious at hiding things
I would say hes probably on hookup sites got chatting and they've moved to kik, that's normally the way it works unless its someone he knows

My exh used it to communicate with his ow. Told her it was for safety as he met het on POF but she found out it was for anonymity. He apparantly didn't need to use his number or name. He was on as 'John Doe' 🙄. Sorry.

I did come on to say that DH had kik on his phone, he used to use it for a stupid online game he used to play, to communicate with other players without revealing his email address or phone number. Once he got bored of the game, he deleted the app. So there are other reasons to have it. DH never deleted any of his chats though, or hid the fact he was using it. He is a total geek though, apparently it's a well known geek communicating app.

Obviously in your case, it's quite clear what he was using it for. I'm sorry OP. You know what you need to do.

It is such a shame you are wasting your life on a worthless man who doesn't have even one shred of respect for you.

Sorry but people DO use it to meet up 😕

Thanks everyone. You've all told me what I already knew, but needed to hear from someone else. DH didn't come home from work until very late last night, we will have to talk today. I got up early and went to the gym with my sister who is the only other person who knows what's going in. She was great. I'm so upset that DH has unilaterally decided to ruin our marriage and destroy our family, and all for his own selfish needs. But I'm not angry, why can't I be angry? I want to be livid, fuming with rage at him, but I can't muster up the energy.

Oh, and he still has Kik on his phone, he used it last night.

You say you can't feel angry - is it because you just don't care anymore?

It's taken him one day to ruin the chance that he asked for. What a prick.

The angry will come once the shock wears off. I am at the angry stage now and omg I have never felt such hatred for someone in my entire life.
Stay strong for your kids xxx

The anger will come.
You need to get through the shock first.
Then the denial phase will hit.

Then the anger!!!!
When you get the anger is when you start to action.
That's when you use the anger to take next steps.

The fact he was still on Kik shows you that he does NOT want to change. And late home!!???? He should be rushing home to be with you to prove how much he is 'changing'
He wants you to put up and shut up. Just like you did last time.
If he wanted to change he had every opportunity to do so the last time you forgave him.
But guess what?? He has no respect for you or your boundaries because he believes you will forgive him again.
And then again.... etc.....
Keep leaning on your sister until you figure all this out.
Take each hour at a time!
Just get through the days for now.

You will get to the anger stage, when you do, 'remember anger is a gift' (malcom x)