This isn’t for me it is for a friend. She and her partner have been together 8 years, have young dc, she doesn’t own the home they live in and she is far from her family and friends without a job however her dp gives her an allowance.
A couple of years ago she found his sending explicit texts to a colleague. The colleague when approached had no idea her partner wasn’t single and when her dp was approached he swore it was all her.. both said nothing physical happened. Her dp said that this was the first time he had done such a thing and wouldn’t happen again, he then proceeded to change all passwords on his phone and also done finger print recognition. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago someone sends her a social media message to say a few years ago my friends dp was having an affair. Again another old colleague no proof though apart from texts asking to go out for dinner and to ‘chill’. These messages were all before the msgs she originally found. DF has gone on to ask her DP if he had ever sexted someone before the ow she knew about, as she has proof he had, he flat out denied it and said it was a few years ago and she needs to go over it. Now DF feels like she can’t bring up the fact that she knows she had contact with other women before the one she found out about because it was years ago and apart from the texts has no proof of said affair. Now I’ve told her that it doesn’t matter if it was last week or last decade, if he has been unfaithful (and I consider setting unfaithful) and he is still trying to lie about it then she has every right to confront him and also leave him should she wish to.
The man hasn’t been a great partner or father to her children, treated her like a doormat and kept all his devices under lock and key. I say he is probably still doing the same thing now. What do you all think? Does she have the right to confront him even though these messages from years ago or just to let it go?