Exp won't let son take adhd medication

[Mum2boys1girl]

Are son just been diagnosed with adhd and given medication for but his dad my ex tells me he ain't having and I best not give it him either. He all of sudden wants a meeting with his school and camhs. Even though he has had plenty of opportunity to go to them as I had monthly meetings since January. What do I do? We have 50/50 custody not by courts

ADHD is strongly hereditary - if a child is diagnosed, then it is very common that one of their parents also has the condition.

This may be affecting your exes reaction, as, if he also has ADHD traits, he is probably seeing a lot of his own childhood behaviours reflected by his son. This leads to:

"I was just like that at his age, and never got any special treatment. In fact, I just got in trouble and was punished a lot - that's all he needs too. Because there's nothing wrong with my son, and there's sure as hell nothing wrong with ME".

Op has said she does 50/50 custody. This likely covers school days so it will impact the child.
I’m wondering if your ex was abusive? What’s his parenting style.
If he wanted the best for his son he would have gone along to meetings and given his point of views and listened to others.
Are you scared of him? I feel for you.
Please let professionals know of the situation.
You are doing your best.

Don’t phone CAMHS, school, GP etc... email them.

You want to start the paper trail and proof of informing the agencies. Any phone calls you get, ask for an email to confirm the conversation or take notes and email them back saying “just to confirm our conversation of 04 Sep ‘19...”. Include any actions they are doing or said they will do.

He is likely to feel tired and crap if he is having it with you and not with your ex (I take ADHD medication)

It it so lovely to have all the “background noise” and sensory stuff turned down to w manageable level, so to go from that to not having it is a bit of a horrible feeling. For me anyway.

I could chose to have “days off” but I’m not sure why I would want to do that to myself when the medication takes away anxiety and makes my brain a calmer place to be

Don't you need both parents to sign that they agree the son takes adhd medication? I'm asking because my son's dad is firmly refusing to sign, while my son wants to try it and I would sign it for him. He's 11, his 17year old sister had to wait until she was old enough so that she only needed my signature. It's really stressing me out, I can see my son struggling, but his dad doesn't even believe in adhd and says medication is all addictive and doesn't help anyway - he has dug up some scientific paper apparently saying just that (he has not shown me the paper though, just b*ing me?) when there are hundreds of papers saying that it helps (I can see the positive effect in my daughter for sure).