Hi. I just can’t decide what to do.
In the past I had a LTR of about 7 years. I left him, he and his parents were emotionally abusive to me, I was isolated, some of the things he did over the years were unforgivable. I was so relieved when I left. He ruined my chances of ever having children so I’m on my own, it’s been 4 years now since I left.
About a year later I met someone else, an old school friend. We were happy I thought until the end when he dumped me while on holiday abroad (yeah-great!!). Turns out he’d met someone else, I found that out months later.
Anyway so the upshot is I’ve been single for a couple of years now. Im mid 40s, have good friends, good social life, good job, own home. Im happily single to be fair.
So this man has come into my life, recently moved to the area and tentatively becoming one of our circle of friends. There’s a spark between us. He’s nice looking, funny, seems like a great guy.
So now I have his number. He’s mentioned going out sometime. Sounds great. Here’s the dilemma.... I’m just not sure at all that I want a man in my life. I value my space, my freedom. It’s not about him, he’s lovely. But the thought of dating just doesn’t appeal at all. I don’t want to lead him on. But then I think it might be nice to get back in the saddle and he’d be very nice to get back in the saddle with (so to speak). I just don’t know. He’ll be out tonight. I blush when I see him in my 40s!!! What would you do??