Boyfriend hasn't taken a single photo of me on holiday

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I've been abroad on holiday for a week with my boyfriend. Is it a bit weird that he hasn't taken a single photo of me?

I think it’s just a man thing.
My phone is full of pics of DH and DD.

There’s only about 4 photos of me & DD in existence. She’s 15 months old

When we’re on holiday I have to actively remind myself to take photos of my own children. I doubt DH has any photos of me on his phone at all to be honest unless they’re ones I’ve sent him myself
Some people just aren’t photo takers.

Yeah, my husband of 20 years always has to be told to take photos, even at weddings and christenings. If you want a photo best just ask him to take one.

If he then goes “Eugh! No! “ you may have a problem..

Nah not weird. Loads of people just don’t. I often think I’d like to take more photos of people I love but then don’t because I either forget or feel it’s a bit awkward and interrupts the flow to be like ‘time for a picture!’ and a bit intrusive and odd to take a picture of someone without them knowing.

If you want pictures taken you gotta ask. Any reason you haven’t?

Bliss. Hate having my photo taken.

What has he taken photos of?

I have exactly the same with dh. I take loads of photos on holiday, he would probably say too many, we’re at totally opposite ends of the spectrum! There are lots of photos of him and our sons but if I want them I have to ask. I’ve got used to the fact that he just doesn’t think about it over the years and now if I want a photo with me in it I just hand over my phone and say take a picture please! I do wish he would want to take photos of me sometimes though. He’s very interested in how things work and good ideas for construction/building for his job so he does independently take photos of things talking to that

I'd find it really strange if my DP took photos of me in holiday. Wouldn't occur to me to take photos of him either. If you want him to take photos, ask him.

He's been taking photos of "views" and I've seen him taking a few selfies.

No selfies together?

I say photobomb every snapshot he takes .

It does sound odd not to include you in some shots.

Do you feel pissed off/neglected or is it more that you are wondering if he is secretly married? How long have you been together? Does he take pictures that include you when you aren't on holiday?

I’m more of a ‘view’ photo taker.
I see my husbands face all the time, but I’m not going to see that beautiful sunset every day.
Don’t be offended. Personally I think people wanting to be in photos is weird. I’ve just had a month long family vacation and I’m in 0 photos.
It doesn’t mean anything except he likes taking photos of the scenery.

Wouldn’t bother me, but the the selfies thing is a bit cringe.

Maybe borrow his phone and publish an album to fb titled “DP’s 2019 holiday album” and get a mutual mate to start the comments rolling about his starring role!
Obviously don’t really do that, but he comes across as a bit vain.
I was once sat behind a woman on a plane who was scrolling through her massive phone while holding it above her head to periodically take selfies, there were 100s of photos of her. Must have been a fun holiday, staring at her phone screen and gurning.

As previous poster said, I have to remind myself to take photos of my own kids. My husband takes pictures of views, museums, artefacts (yawn) but I actually can't remember a single time in our relationship (20+ years and six kids) when he's taken a photo of me unprompted. It's a man thing maybe? Don't sweat it but if you want him to take photos of you, ask him to. Easy to forget and then not have any momentos. And remember the rules, if he asks you to take photos of him it is the law that you turn the camera on yourself and put some surprise selfies on there too (just me??)

Is this your first holiday together? Does he usually take photos of you? Does he usually take photos of other people eg on a night out / previous holidays?

Have you taken photos together? Or of him?

Dp loves taking photos of us together. I am more of a view photo taker.

If dp is taking photos of us both, I work on the assumption that he will share the photos with me.

We have about 3 pics of us together
We’ve been together 4 years
It just doesn’t dawn on us to do it-nobody can take our memories away from us
(In fact we need to take a selfie for my photo bonkers mil to proudly display on her mantelpiece)
It just doesn’t register with us to take any

I don’t think this is weird really. We went on holiday the beginning of this month. I have some photos of scenery and 1 photo of DP (whilst he was trying to fix the air con) 🤣.

I’m just rubbish at remembering to take them and I’d rather enjoy the moment in person. But I do need to take more photos.

My ex did this because he didn’t want the new woman he’d met to know he was away with me

Personally I think people wanting to be in photos is weird.
Me too, cant stand it when you go somewhere and cant get a decent photo because people want to pose in front of it.
We take the odd family selfie but its rare.
Went to Harry potter studio Every single item same person standing in front posing, then checking photo was good enough, then going back to do it again.
DH is a serious photographer and rarely takes a photo of me.

Don’t take it personally, last thing I’d think about whilst taking in the sounds, sights and smells on holiday is a picture of DH.

Have you ever expressed displeasure at photos he has taken in the past, which had you in them?

No selfies together from a selfie taker would worry me. Photography is my hobby, I go around taking photos of people, landscapes and selfies. The only times I have systematically excluding other people from my selfies was when I was “shaping” my online dating profile or I didn’t want people to assume a relationship was more serious than it was at the time.

How is he at other times? Has he introduce you to his family/friends?

My DH is a semi pro photographer and still has to be prompted to take photos of me together with DC - that being said the ones he takes are always beautiful put up on your wall quality! 🤣 over the years he is more accepting of me taking silly self portrait photos of us as a couple but for a while he would always avoid being in photos!

My DP rarely takes photos, ever. His album is full of his work photos (construction) that he has to send over and they get deleted. He saves the photos I send to him of DD but that's it really. If we were on holiday there is no way he would pull his phone out so I dont think your partner is acting weird.