How do you know if you still love someone?

[Imtrying2]

Exactly that really...how do you know?

Feeling very confused

Love is a doing verb, not a feeling verb.

Do you still help that person when they need it? Do you respect them? Do you show them affectionate? Do you value their opinion?

“Love .... whatever that is”, didn’t a Prince once say?
There is a difference between loving someone and being in love.
I love my DC, my DSis and my best friend.
For me, being in love with my DH means I see him as the person in this world most likely to be on my side through thick and thin. We disagree often but we laugh even more frequently. I care a lot about his feelings, his well-being and I am interested in and respect his opinion.
If you and your DP do not prioritise each other, if you don’t care about hurting each other, if you have no sparks when you look into each other’s eyes...these are my personal opinions though, and on MN some posters seem to have either extraordinarily high or mindblowingly low expectations within a relationship. In conclusion, I think only you can know if it is still possible to feel love for the person in question.

I think that if you have to ask, you don't love that someone any more.

I agree with Time40. If you love someone then you love them. There's not doubt about it.

OP do you want to say a bit more about why you're having doubts?

If you are in love with someone you want nothing more than to be with them, and only them for the rest of your days.

I have no idea what love is but I think you will know when you feel it.

Can you imagine your life without them?

Thanks for your replies. Me and H are going out separate ways and he asks me if I still love him, and feel like I can’t answer honestly. There’s been a lot of issues and we’ve had a rough few months.

I feel sad about separating and keep thinking if I feel this sad then I must still love him right?

You are grieving the end of things, what could have been, what was etc. You were planning on spensing the rest of your life with your H. You can know that sepearting is the right thing to do even if you still have loving feelings towards the other person.

I thinks a lot of divorced couples will always care about and have feelings for their former spouse, especially when the dust settles they may look fondly back on old times and admire how their former partner used to do particular things etc.