Tell me it gets better :( xx

[ScarlettDrean]

Been with my boyfriend just over two years and.....tonight have made a very brave decision to end the relationship.

I have told him and now feel absolutely devastated. I've not stopped crying...I'm in a complete mess :((((((((

My boyfriend....i love him dearly but he can't give me what I need in a relationship...mostly there is a complete lack of affection on his part. I literally cannot take it any more...fighting for affection. So...I've had to put my big girl pants on and tell him.

He has taken it well....but...when he excused himself to the bathroom, I know it was because he was going to cry. I was horrified at myself for doing this to him :((( I can barely type now because of the tears xx

I have ruined his life by leaving him. How can I cope with the guilt of causing so much pain and turmoil to the one I love? XXXXXX

Oh I’m sorry OP it will get better, no one wants a relationship without affection. Who knows, this might make him realise what he’s losing and do something about it.

You haven’t ruined his life, he will move on. Your improving yours and ensuring as you go forward your in a relationship where your expectations are met without a struggle. I felt bad ending a relationship with a man I had been with for 4 yrs but I had outgrown him and we were not on the same page and his idea of affection was grabbing a boob. He took it badly but ultimately moved on got married to someone else

With all due respect, you're not so amazing that you've ruined his life and he'll never be happy again. He will be. You will be. You'll both get through the pain of the break-up and move on with your lives.

Well. If you ended the relationship because there was a complete lack of affection on his part, it strikes me as rather unlikely that he’s currently crying his eyes out in the bathroom.

Stop being a drama queen. He’ll be fine, you’ll be fine. Onwards and upwards.

Thank you thank you thank you.

All messages greatly appreciated.

I feel HORRID. HORRID.

Devastating to look at someone and love them....be actually in love with them and finish them :,( xx

Grieving the loss of the relationship....oh my heart x

Another way to look at it is that while he’s not 100% right for you, he may be exactly what someone else needs. If you’d held on to him he’d never get the chance to meet his perfect woman.
And likewise, you won’t meet that special someone while you’re in a relationship with him.
So the pain will pass, you will both move on and meet other people.
That may be a bit airy fairy but you get the gist! What’s for you will not go by you.

How have you ruined his life?
He had a life before you and he will have a life after you.
I realise grieving causes all sorts of reactions.
But try not to 'catastrophise' things.
It really doesn't help.
You will both move on from this.
This is the start of a new beginning for both of you.

People end relationships all the time.
And people move on.
You only have to look at threads on here to see that people sometimes go on to have much better lives.

But you will need to go through the whole grieving process.
It will take time but you will come out the other side.
Be kind to yourself.
Lean on friends and family.
Keep busy.

You haven't ruined his life. You will both move on and be happy again, it will just take time.
If you stayed with him you would of both been unhappy eventually.
What you did was really brave and, in the end, kind

Thank you so so much for the kindness xx I am so grateful for it.
The world feels very different today xx
It's difficult because we live together...I'm supporting him financially...we have a cat he loves....urgh.
I just couldnt take it anymore guys xx I need...to FEEL loved in a relationship.

Anyone else feel crap scared after breaking.up....being alone xxx

Of course we all feel scared - scared shitless.
After 15 years with a DD, he moved to another country.
I had to cope.
And I did.
And you will too.

Why are you financially supporting him?