Mum's absent from photos

[Rose220]

Are you the mum that's always taking photos but never in them. I am and up till recently it has started bothering me. In fact I didn't realise till my daughter was 6 months old I can count how many photos I am in with her. I love the ones I have. In fact I cherish them all but I'm a little sad there isn't more of me and her together. Do you feel the same or am I the only one who feels this way.

He took my photo today. A hideous one of me in mcdonalds. I look awful. Of all the pictures he could have taken.... This is the one. He took it without me knowing, then put it on Facebook. I'm so angry and upset. He thinks this is somehow an OK thing to do???

SheChose did he take it because he knew it wasn't you at the best angle or did he think it was a nice photo?

Yes I am, my DH just doesn't take many photos, even if just the kids. In fairness though when he does take them of me I always think I look fat or ugly and want them deleted!

Selfies is a good shout! I might start doing that.

My ex deliberately made me look awful in pictures, posted the blinks, the mid sneeze, the triple chin on Facebook.
I do selfies with the children, although the teenager would rather be pixellated!

I have this. I try to take selfies with DD, ask DH, but also take photos of friends with their DC on days out and send them over.

He knew it was a shockingly bad picture. He thought it'd be funny 😒

It used to really upset me but now I ask or take a selfie. I agree it's a red flag or Amber at least

I have to remind DP to take photos sometimes. He just doesn’t take many, whereas I take a lot.
Quite frankly I don’t really care that I’ve got a double chin showing or my hairs a bit scruffy, cos if that’s how I looked when the photo was taken, well it’s how I looked.
He took some of me and DS today (after a reminder) and while they’re not the most flattering, I don’t give a fuck cos DS and I are clearly having fun, we’re laughing and smiling together and that’s what matters and they’ll be printed out and put in an album.

I've explained to dh several times how upsetting it is that I'm on very few photos. He never, or at least very rarely, thinks to take photos of me without having to be asked. There's one of me with my eldest child as a newborn baby. There are none of me with my youngest as a newborn baby - the youngest was about 12 weeks before I got in on any. There are no photos of me on our first family holiday - ds even asked why I didn't go.

Now I take selfies with my phone (but they don't work properly because the angle is crap) and I use the app to connect my phone to my camera so I can remotely take a nice photo of me with the dc and make it look like someone else has taken it if that makes sense.

We bought our dc a small camera each (those kiddizoom cameras) and they take photos of me (which I like because they're from their perspective so give me an idea of how they see me). I have these printed out and they go into the album along with all those that I take of the children and my husband so there is a record of my existence.

My dh hates having his photo taken but I nearly always took the photos anyway. Had to start asking and now he asks 'shall I take one of you wiv dcs' Has taken a while to train him though! I used to think it was important but I don't so much now - how much time do people actually spend looking at photos really? Not often.