The most unreasonable/selfish/mean things you’ve done...(lighthearted and serious). I’m feeling like a terrible person tonight!

[80snot90s]

I feel like a terrible person today and I’m not sure why but I’m going over things I’ve done in life that I’m not proud of!

Silly thing for me last week when someone asked to swap a shift at work for her son’s birthday and I said no because i wanted a lie in and had PMT. now I’ve started thinking of all sorts of things I’ve done in the past...maybe it’s just me and I’m a total bitch!

If that's the worst example you can come up with, you're clearly on the right side of normal.

Most people are selfish (despite claims that they're not)

Don't beat yourself up. If I had PMT and wanted a lie in, I certainly wouldn't want to volunteer to do a colleague's shift.

See, I think that's a little mean for a son's birthday, unless there was someone else to ask, then I might do it. I'm a pathetic people pleaser but (thanks mumsnet) did recently unfriend someone on Facebook after realising our friendship was only a good thing for her, it made my life a lot worse. I felt mean doing it but 24 hrs later I felt very empowered and guilt went poof.

I think (at the grand old age of 47) that kindness can be exploited.

I was always someone who wanted to go out of my way for others but then I realised it was rarely reciprocated and I toughened up.

I now go by the rule of 'would they do it for me?' and mostly the answer is no.

Unless it's family, I'm less likely to to good turns for people who, quite frankly, take the piss.

I wish the world was a nicer place and we could advocate being good to others but unfortunately this just makes us vulnerable.

No more the nice guy for me. Sad but true.

Silly thing for me last week when someone asked to swap a shift at work for her son’s birthday and I said no because i wanted a lie in and had PMT. . I think that's quite mean.

I'm not a people pleaser, and have good boundaries in place, but I will help someone out if i can and the benefit to them will be greater than the cost to me.

I'd be far more inclined to help someone who also helps others though.

I have done so many things it is hard to think of just one

I know - I have posted this before on a forum. I once put laxatives in my packed lunch to stop another member of staff from pinching my food from the office fridge.

Most of my selfish behaviour has been around eating/drinking all the household/office supplies of X. EG eating all the cheese and onion packets out of the multipack.

I think my cringiest moment ever was when I had a colleague who was from Austria and I was taking the piss out of her and did a Nazi salute 🤚 Then it turned out she was behind me 😳

I was 16 in my defence....