Boyfriend talks about his past

[leahkane19]

My boyfriend works away during the week so I only see him Fri to early Mon morning. We have a 5 month old son together.

He is 28 and sometimes it's like he is still in the mindset of an 18 year old 'lad'. Especially when he has had a drink, he feels the need to tell me what he got up to in the past. It gets on my nerves and I know I seem childish but I hit him back with things I did in the past. I don't want to talk about it at all. He say things like 'have you ever done this that with someone and goes into depth about what he has done with a lass. We weren't together so in that way it's OK as everyone has a past including me, but who wants to sit and talk about shags from the past? It's constantly on my mind now and I hate thinking about it, I feel physically sick.

For what I see of him now, I want to enjoy seeing him, I want to go out and do things as a family but he would more or less rather get some bottles and chill in the house, then soon as he's drunk this topic is brought up. I have told him twice I don't want to talk about it but seems to happen every time.

We are parents, I am 23 and feel more grown up than him. I'm not a 17 year old bragging about how many people I've slept with etc..

My ex was like this. I think they do it to make you feel insecure & like you’re not good enough. As soon as I left him I got my self esteem back.

@Pretendapony

That's exactly how I feel. Sometimes I think to myself what is so wrong with me that you want to talk about other lasses? It really gets to me. I have learned not to talk about my past anymore as I only did that to see if he would stop, he just talked about it more, it was like trying to get one over on each other and that's not what I want, it's not a competition, even when we are about to be intimate, that topic is on my mind and I don't want to think about other women he has been with.. I can see an argument brewing with him

I think it’s either because he’s immature or because he doesn’t respect you. My ex had no respect for me. My DH would never dream of telling me his past conquests, just like he doesn’t want to know about mine. We don’t know who we’ve slept with or when or how. It’s not necessary, it’s in the past and won’t bring anything good to the relationship. I would have a serious word with him but whilst he is sober.

@Pretendapony

I totally agree with you, I wish he was more like your husband. There is no reason for him to tell me his past he just comes out and says it. I think it's because when we first met, some of friends knew who I was and I was in a circle of friends who didn't respect themselves and I was drawn into it, everyone thinking I was easy so he probably thinks it's okay to talk about it when it's not, it's upsetting