End of relationship

[Squeekybummum]

I've come to realise my marriage is over, just can't seem to pluck up the courage to actually say it out loud.
So many things going round in my head, will i be able to cope with 3 young children on my own? What will i do with our house? Its a mortgage. Also i work but get tax credits. I get money for 3 children as 3rd was born before the cut off. If i make a new single claim will i be in the new system and only get money for 2 children. I pay childcare for my youngest. Wasn't sure what area to put this thread in.

Hi, I've been in your situation minus the 3rd child though, and I left the marital home because he wouldn't. Firstly, do you think your DH would leave? I'm assuming that you work part time yeah? I work part time and get working tax credits, and help towards housing benefit but I rent privately. Not sure if you'd get much help staying in the marital home but then your DH would have to pay child maintenance.

The best place to call would be your local benefits office, either speak over the phone or you can make an appointment and they would tell you straight away what you'd be entitled to.

@Sqeekybummum forgot to tag

I’m alone with 3 after a long marriage, I took tax credits and child benefit and focused on my career, no longer get anything. Needs must.

Go to entitledto.com and do the calculation.

You can do this.

Firstly I would seek some legal advice.
Does your DH know this is on the cards?
Does have somewhere he could go so you and the DC can stay in the house?
Will he be amicable about a split?
Have you seen how much he would need to pay in maintenance for the 3 DC?

Yes i think deep down he noes it is coming. He is currently trying to be all nice and hands on as he noes I'm unhappy, this doesn't normally last long. I just need to no ill be ok money wise if we split. Yeah he could stay at his mums house till he finds somewhere although he won't be happy about that as they don't really get on. Thanks for all your replys, i will look in to.

Have a phone around and see if you can find a solicitor in your area that offers a free 1st half hour.
Some do and that may be all you need.
Do you know how much equity is in the house?
Do you have access to savings and current accounts?
Any ISA's?
Any pensions set up?
Any other assets?
Any proof of what your DH earns?
You will need your marriage certificate to file for divorce.

I have done the benefits calculator and i will be entitled to £48 a week, i couldn't live on that with my wages alone. Even with child benefit and child maintenance.