So my LB is 3 and a half months old and I feel like my OH does nothing.
When the health visitor came round for the 6 week check she told my boyfriend that he should do one whole night of feeds a week so I can have at least one night where I get to sleep through. He has never done this. I’ve only ever had 3 ‘nights off’ when his mum or sister has offered to look after him in the next room.
I have to get up with him and take him to work and then pick him up in the evening then cook dinner and do everything for baby. When he gets in he usually goes in the garden or sits on his phone and it drives me mad the baby will be crying and I’ll have to feed him while cooking dinner. I completely understand that he’s been at work all day but I thought that when he gets home he would like to help me a bit. Also he smokes so he will go outside and have time alone very often whereas I honestly can’t remember when I had 5 minutes to myself. Don’t get me wrong I love being a mum and I love my son so much but when I’m having a bath I don’t want to keep jumping out to settle the baby.
Any advice? We’ve spoken about him helping me more before but it ends in an argument of he shouldn’t have to because he works full time. It’s always is a competition of who’s allowed to be more tired, I’m always up at around 6 but on his days off he will sleep in until midday.
I sometimes feel like if I was a single mum it wouldn’t make any difference, it would work probably be easier because I wouldn’t have to drive him around. Also I’m 22 and he’s 21.