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Pregnant after a "fling"

28 replies

KC00 · 27/08/2019 17:23

I found out I was pregnant just a week ago, I had been dating this guy for a few weeks or so, it was never anything serious, mostly because he's moving abroad very soon and neither of us were interested in a long distance relationship, so we were never offically together but I ended it as I felt like I was getting too attatched to something that wasn't going to last. A few weeks later my period was very late so I took a few tests and they were all positive. I've been stressing over it all week. I'm 26 and I've always wanted to be a mum one day but this isn't how I saw it happening. I knew I had to tell him so I convinced myself to yesterday, he said he didn't want a child and he was interested so it's down to me. I honestly wasn't sure how he would react but that took me by surprise. I do want to continue this pregnancy, I could afford a child it's just I know my family won't be supportive, I'm dreading how they'll react. I have some amazing friends, I've told some of them but I know I am essentially alone in this because they can't be around very often. I want to do this but I'm not sure if it's really the best idea

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CaptainMyCaptain · 28/08/2019 13:00

It's better to regret having a termination than regret having a child.*
Even if you never get pregnant again? Op doesn't want a termination. As for parental opposition, my mother threatened to commit suicide if I didn't have a termination but was with me at the birth and doted on DD.

category12 · 28/08/2019 13:40

But that's vastly an unfounded fear - it's not a one shot deal for most women.

If it's right for the op, it's right, but as per pp it's unrealistic to expect much practical help from friends, and if family don't come round, then she could end up do it entirely alone. Which is doable but tough-going.

I think it boils down to how much you want this pregnancy, op. If you miscarried would you be devastated or relieved?

Parent999 · 28/08/2019 13:57

Hang on, he has been honest and said he doesn’t want a baby so he’s a “twat”
By that logic is a woman a twat for wanting a termination?

That’s a rhetorical question, of course she isn’t.
Why the fuck can’t people just be nice.

Op don’t rely on strangers opinions, do what’s best for you. It’s really only you that can decide.

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