I have a very strained relationship with my father. He isnt a nice man there's lots of history of lies and he is just a complete narsacist. I'd happily not have anything to do with him however I let him have a relationship with my children he has always been good to them and seems to love them on a count of them being too young to be able to see what he is really like. There small so there is no judgement from them I think that's what he likes.
Anyway he comes round for an hour once a week to see them. All had been going well untill this weekend. He and my daughter (6) got onto the conversation of what she wants to be when she grows up. She wants to be a popstar of course bless her, he told her that her chances where slim and she probably wouldn't be a popstar so needed another option. Her other option was ballerina she does attend dance class so this isn't beyond the realms of Impossible. Again he shot her down and told her the she would have to had been practicing everyday and that most ballerinas are picked up by the age of 5 and that she is basically past it.
So all in all an hour visit and he crushed two of her dreams. I stopped the conversation going any further by telling her she has plenty of time to decide what she wants to do when she's older. But I'm so angry at myself for not telling him how unacceptable his behaviour and comments where the child is 6 how dare he crush her dreams or put doubt in her mind about what she is one day capable of doing. I'm so disappointed with myself where do I go now can I bring it back up do I bother saying anything or just accepted he's a bitter old man and tell my kids to ignore him?
This is going to be full of spelling and grammatical errors sorry everyone.