Cheater wife on hidden camera

[Jack1964]

So just to clarify , my wife has been having a very explicit emotional affair naked pics and all you can imagine from March to July when I happened to call her out on this.
Anyway she apologized and I have been having therapy to get over this.
Well a couple of weeks ago I had reason to believe she was carrying on this affair and I installed a hidden camera but obviously not hidden enough.

So she finds it and goes ballistic with my for spying on her.
I told her I had reason to believe she was still carrying on this affair and I also have major trust issues as you can imagine.
I now feel as if I’m the bad guy in this relationship.

If you still don’t trust her, really you should leave her. Hidden cameras are not a way of dealing with this whilst maintaining your own integrity.

Have no words of advice OP, but I feel for you!

I've been on the receiving end of being recorded whilst ex was out and I was off. I purposely invited male friends over purely to wind him up as it p*ssed me off that he didn't trust me.. Turned out he was cheating on me, felt guilty and tried to twist it round onto me...

I hope you continue your therapy and start feeling better soon

You don't trust her and rightly so, be kind to yourself and end the marriage. It is painful and may be for quite some time but honestly do you think you can forgive and move past this? If not then try to see you deserve a chance at happiness and that may not be found with your wife.

If you're at a point where putting in secret cameras to spy on your partner seems justifiable to you, then the relationship is dead anyway. Save yourself the money and looking & behaving like a lunatic, and just call it a day.

Installing a hidden camera is a big breach of her privacy and she’s right to be angry.

If you can’t trust her, and clearly you can’t, then you should call it a day, not attempt to play Dick Tracey with badly concealed cameras - or trackers or phone software or whatever you next decide to use.

You could end up with a Police intervention if you continue down that route and you’ll never be satisfied. Either you never find anything, in which case you’ll likely just get obsessive and think she’s hiding it too well, or you catch her out and get hurt anyway.

End the relationship now and save yourself (and her) a lot of future pain.

Yeah pretty disgusted with myself for resorting to this behaviour

You illegally filmed her. The end.

You filmed her? Of COURSE she's going to be angry.

Is this a relationship you want to be in?

Did you think she would be doing the deed with OM in the house ?

If you're at the point where you're installing cameras, then the relationship is dead.

Plus, now that you fucked up, you'll be the bad guy, which is a complete mindfuck regardless of how wrong you were.

You won't be allowed to be angry,to be sad, to be suspicious etc.

It'll all become about what you did wrong.

I've been there, fuck it and move on.

You can be upset and angry at cheating. However, you can't film someone without their permission. You know this is wrong and should trust your counsellor to help you through this situation but if ultimately the trust is gone, you'd be best to separate.

Cheating is morally wrong but filming someone to spy on them is actually illegal. Don't put yourself in a position to be the smaller person here. Take the high ground.

Best wishes